8 months preg, with a uncontrollable toddler.

So I'm about 8 months pregnant at this point, my daughter is going to be 4 in a few weeks. She has been potty trained and doing so well with school and everything. About 2 weeks ago everything changed, she started peeing around the house. Pouring things on the carpet breaking things on purpose. Today I picked her up from school and she always holds my hand as we are walking to the car and today she broke free and threw her yogurt at me and ran full speed down the hill. As I have mentioned I'm quite large and not as fast as I normally am. I'm just grateful she didn't get hit by a car. I tried talking to her but she ran off again so I raised my voice while other moms looked at me like I was beating the crape out of her. Okay so what I'm wondering is why her behavior has so drastically changed. Could it just be the baby that's coming or is it something else. I'm starting to lose my patience with her with the peeing and destroying things. Plus she's aggressive towards me shes punched me and kicked me in the stomach just for reprimanding her. Ugh I just don't know what to do

If this is a sudden change in her behavior, I would think something must have happened to trigger this. I would talk to her pediatrician and the school. Has her behavior changed there? What you are describing sounds like more than the baby coming...

I don't know anything about children and pregnancy, but I agree with winter; I think you need to talk to her doctor. I don't want to jump to conclusions, but there are things that might have happened to her that her doctor can tell you. I do think it's possible it's just the pregnancy; I've heard of kids regressing over jealousy of a new baby.

Are you able to give her the normal amount of attention despite the pregnancy symptoms? My son starts destroying things and deliberatly disobeys the normal rules (like the handholding and hitting stuff) whenever I'm 'negelcting' him (at least he seems to think it's neglect, I think it's trying to catch up on a weeks worth of laundry, or vacuuming the entire house).

She does really well in school actually. Her father and I sat down and talked to her yesterday and she was good yesterday. It may just be the baby but I'm still worried. I give her attention but I'm so tired its hard to focus on playing with her for 16 hrs a day all by myself

What does she do to entertain herself?

She likes dancing and coloring but she likes me to play with her 16 hrs a day is too much

OMG! I had a much littler "big sister" at 22 mos when the baby came, but she did a lot of the same stuff. I think...kids get scared they are being replaced. I also was her sole entertainment. So I mixed up the activities to give us both a break.
I did several things to ease her acting out. A good talking to helped remind her, I was always positive & reaffirming that she is my #1 only first child, that sort of thing. Then I started giving her little jobs that made her feel like a big girl. The tone was, "big girls get to ...." fill in the blank. (help mommy bake, take real pictures with a (cheap) camera or some special outing.) She picked right up on that & added that "babies can't do that."
She became very possessive of me, a big turn around. And she was a great big sister.
I could go on all day about the young mommy years as these times are special & wonderful & trying. Like life. Make sure to have some "alone with daddy time" too. She should be learning to share you. I wish you So Much good luck!

I looked into a dance school once a week for her and shes been helping more not all days are good but I keep talking to her about being a big girl

one thing to do once you have the baby is make her feel special. like helping you with the baby....getting diapers or wipes or maybe even helping feed the baby. Tell her she is a big girl and you would like it if she would help you out a little. that might just help.

(((lammycake)))

My 2 girls are 2 years & 3 months apart in age. My ex-hub and I thought we had planned so well. Our older daughter did regress quite a bit after our second girl was born. We had tried hard to prepare her to be an older sister ~ we bought kids books about being the big sister, to be excited & helpful.

However, I really think that some kids need a little extra time and more preparation to help them deal with the upcoming differences that there will soon be. Your daughter is in pre-school, which is pretty special. Always commend her for behaving nicely. Perhaps she'll let you get a nap in on days where you need one and, in thanks, you can now you can go to the park together to play! Bring some day old bread and let her help feed the ducks and geese.

Part of her behavior may be your daughter testing you ~ my older daughter has done that with me a few different times now. My younger daughter is on her 1st major testing period with me now; she always has to be right, copies what I say, etc. Really annoying, but thankfully still very sweet & cute!

Over the years, our girls have bonded well and are typical good sisters. One minute they love each other & the next, someone gets hurt. Then, they hate each other and cry! Aged 10 and 8 years old, they're pretty darn close & I hope that they are able to hold onto that bond throughout their lives.

Congratulations on your growing family ~ try not to worry too much. Very best wishes!