Starting to feel bad about being a woman

I met a friend of a family member on facebook and I got really offended. He saw I wrote something innocent to my sister-in-law about the weather getting cooler and being able to wear tights again.

A friend of hers wrote me a private message out of the blue and asked me why I like to wear tights. I didn't know what to say other than they are comfortable. Then he turned the coversation into a sex fest in a matter of seconds.

I stopped the coversation but he made me feel so cheap. The worst part is that he is very religious and am shocked that he would do that. He wanted me to masterbate on facebook and called my vagina an "it".

I feel sorry for his future wife.

Why are guys such jerks? I didn't say anything sexual until he started with the sex stuff then I stopped talking to him but he gave me the creeps. Has anyone else felt like that?

Yes. Some guys have no skills at all. I'm glad you cut him off. What a jerk is right!
When someone did that to me I let it out to a couple other people. It just made me feel better to let others know he was creepy. Then they were forewarned.

Sorry it happened to you though...

Don't let some asshat get to you. He has the problem! Not you!

Hmmmmmm maybe his future wife needs to know about what a creep he is & maybe she would decide that he's not the kind of guy she wants for a future husband.......might as well know before the wedding than after when its harder to do something about.

Yep, tights in the cold weather are wonderful....I even wear them under my long underwear & sweat pants for warm layering effects......when it's cold....one has to figure our all the layering possible to stay warm.

Yah, his future wife is for sure in trouble. His facebook page pretty much advertised that he was Orthodox in his religious beliefs but he was such a jerk to me. I suppose he would have been a jerk to whomever responded to his interest in black tights...should have known better.

What I've learned about this is that yes, it's not about me, it's about him and his perverseness.

Recently found out from my sister in law that he is 40 and still unmarried, still a virgin according to his religious belief's. Based on what he said to me, I could tell he was not experienced as a pervert even.

Ick!

It's not about me, it's not about me, it's not about me, really, it's not!

It's definitely, not about you! Why do you like to wear tights?! Fashion statement?! Geez. Glad you ended the conversation, just sorry you got to read more than what your eyeballs are ready to absorb! How rude, and just unnecessary.

Not all men are like this, thank god! The human race would probably come to an end, if they were...

I agree. There would be no humans if all men acted like this. The women would either be scared of him or really pissed off.

The contradiction in his life made my jaw drop.

So sorry you had go through that. Not everyone that say Lord, Lord practices what they preach. I hope that did not turn you off from God who he was not representing. He was nothing but a wolf in sheeps clothing. Don't let anyone ever make you feel cheep. He's the sick one. Keep your head up my dear.

Tights associated with sex? I guess I am naive. When you said "tights," I just assumed you were talking about wearing them with long pants on top or with a skirt or dress.

I agree. This guy is sick. I can see why no woman would want him.

And, right, he has the problem. Please don't feel bad about being a woman because of one pervert.

He was referring to tights with a dress.

Like it was said earlier, a wolf in sheeps clothing.

I feel like a woman and a lady again thanks to everyone's support!

Good for you my dear so glad to hear your feeling much better about things. And you are and always will be a woman and a lady. Strong and gifted, beautiful, sweet,caring,loving. How wonderful it is to be a woman. Continue to live life in VICTORY my dear keep your head up.

I have a hard time having a normal conversation with a guy anymore because of this reason! I know there are good guys out there, but damn! Where are they?

Well, it's still a fashionable thing to do

Hmmm...yep, it's time, shirts/dresses with 'opaque nylons' and boots!

The guy is a jerk and sounds dangerously close to being a sexual deviant. There are decent men out there. You do not have to put up with that crap. When I was in my late teens, I thought I had to put up with masculine vulgarity or the boys would not pay attention to me. Boy was I ever wrong. I ended up getting pregnant to a creep to took a hike when he found out and left me high and dry. Even though I had a miscarriage a few weeks later, I can imagine what a mess I could have been in. Stick tom your guns. ANy guy who deserves to be with you needs to act respectful of your feminity

I guess what really freaked me out big time was that this man has a strong influence in his local community as an extremely spiritual and religious individual. What scares me is that he is trusted and works with disabled children. I know if I had kids and knew about how this man really was and what he was thinking, I'd run with my screaming with my kid.

May he die a virgin.

That is weird. Where is that Chris Peterson To Catch A Predator guy when you need him? You might want to consider telling your local police department about him? If he is preying on children online - I mean, he went there pretty quickly with you, idk.

Yep, a lot of men are creeps out there.

Awhile back I had some strange guy send me a message on Facebook claiming a friend of his had recommended he become friends with me (I looked, we have no mutual friends) and he decided to do it because he enjoys my smile in my profile pic and wants to get to know me. I never had any intention of friending him or messaging him back, but out of curiosity I checked out his Facebook page (everything was public) where I learned he was married with kids and all his posts were about loving the Lord and loving his wife and kids. It was so disgusting.

When I was a teenage I worked at a Burger King and it wasn't uncommon for men to make obscene comments toward me when going through the drive thru. It was gross enough then and now when i think of how young I was it is way worse.

It's so easy to write of the whole gender, but there are a few good ones out there, but they may be in the minority.

This kind of stuff happens to me all the time. A while ago, I would try and get them off my back by telling them that I'm gay, which is true, but then it just turns into 'what do you do to her', 'can I watch', crap like that.
Online it's way worse than in real life, too. Don't let it affect your self worth. It says more about him than you. You're not cheap, he's just a pig. I usually just tell them to **** off and continue on with life.

75% of men are pigs. His libido is probably out of control and he's getting something out of doing this. I'm thinking he's trying to get to you just for your reaction, cant think of any other reason. But yeah, he sounds like a total freak, maybe on drugs too.

He sounds like a total pig and you do not have to put up with vulgar inappropriate comments. I used to let people talk to me like that but not anymore. You have a right to respect as a woman. You are to be treasured not insulted