Struggling with looks

Recently, I've started to struggle with how I look. I hate seeing pictures of myself, I feel like I look terrible because I have a double chin in almost every picture taken of me. I've struggled with body image and how I see myself all of my life. I've never been able to happily accept my body for what it is, and I am constantly seeking some sort of 'way out'. I have a darling husband who is very supportive and tells me how beautiful I am all of the time but it is just so hard for me to see it. If anyone has any tips or tricks, I would be more than happy to hear them. Stay wonderful and beautiful, everyone. xx

Hi, decayyouth, and welcome to Psych Central! I know what you mean. As I am aging, I am not so excited about looking into the mirror either. I also have a double chin, plus some general drooping in that area.

If you really are struggling with this issue, then maybe you can consider getting a bit of plastic surgery. I have seen ads that show before and after pics with the after depicting firmed up chins.

Some folks also say some facial exercises can help with this normal change with age. Perhaps you can check into that.

And maybe somebody has some make-up suggestions to make this issue less obvious.

Maybe a better photographer? And practice angling with selfies(unpublished, no doubt)


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I don't have a double chin.

I have a double belly instead

But I do have tips on photos. Look at the attachments, please

So I tried taking a selfie without learning about proper angles etc. Was mostly surprised by the strange shape of the face. Then started clowning around in front of the camera. Then used the edit-crop picture isolate my lips. Then edited I Paper Artist to add special effects. I liked the results and sent to bf, who is overseas, with KISS in the subject line. He quickly responded. So I would count it as my first successful selfie with minor edits applied.

I've definitely learned not to use one of those magnifying mirrors. EEK!

Oh! Traveling Lady, I made using a magnifying mirror a must after age forty...a while ago! It helps me be sure not to over apply make up, which is aging.
Accepting our aging selves is a process. I see I've changed but have accepted these changes as part of what we all go through. I did that by searching pictures of women who are over 50 and looking closely at the ones who look great, pulled together, happy. Then I try to copy what works for me.

We tend to focus on our flaws but I am pretty sure no one else does, or is as hard on us as we are on ourselves.

If your chin/jaw line is the problem, focus your attention on making your eyes/hair beautiful. You can add contour & shadow with make up if you are skilled with a makeup brush. This usually involves 2 or 3 shades of foundation. Whatever you wear, make sure you feel great in it. It helps lift everything about you to others. If you feel great, that is what people notice. How you carry yourself is everything IMHO.

And smile! That focuses the attention to your happy face, not your flaws.
Gravity and skin elasticity are the enemy in my world, and the two things that are impossible to combat. But we can have our teeth whitened to have a great smile.

You are lucky you have a man who still sees you as beautiful. My H picked me apart when I was young and beautiful so now his marching orders are to Zip It. I couldn't bear to hear what he thinks of my aging self. And I console myself that no matter how old I get, he will always be older & saggier ...

But how in the world do you TWEEZE ?

Trying to age and be comfortable with the fact here At least I am still physically healthy.. worry about my mental state more. decayyouth... been thru extensive therapy just to make me like me again..rofl.. Huggles

It's tough, to be sure, but keep in mind that the camera doesn't truly capture your essence. If I don't wear makeup, my eyebrows and my upper lip seem to disappear. You can try holding your chin out and downward for definition, if it bothers you. I also agree with highlighting the facial features that you do like. Maybe I'm not one to give advice, because I am not a fan of the camera, either. My pictures are courtesy of the DMV. One thing to keep in mind is that even the so-called "most beautiful women" have tons of makeup, lighting, Photoshop, AND go through a number of pictures to get the best ones.

In a society that places a premium on youth, I think we as women need to accept ourselves no matter what dimples or where lines end up....I struggle with self-acceptance daily myself but at the end of the day I remind myself that all the pretty packages don't contain the best gifts. Embrace your gifts.

I hate hate hate seeing pictures of myself. I look at a photo and think, "oh god is that what I really look like?" I dont take photos well.

Im also getting wrinkle under my eyes. I tried wrinkle cream and got an allergic reaction from several.

Doesnt help that my husband does not complement me at all. Not how Im dressed or how I look when I try to look nice....nothing. If I say something he will give out a little yeah or something like that. Its like he is afraid I will get a big head or something. I will try and make it appoint to tell him he looks nice when he does. I get so hurt. I want to look nice on his arm and I fail. Its hard when your husband thinks your ok looking, when everyone else thinks your cute.

I feel your pain. We are not models or stars and I think we have high expectations to be that way. (thanks to hollywood) We are exactly who we are suppose to be. We are us. (by the way the stars and model are only pretty and wow because of make up and hair that takes hours to do and lighting and camera angles.)