[beeutterfly]

Hi ladies. I came across this group tonight, actually surprised it took me this long. But hi! I'm Denise.

My issue: before and without psych meds (specifically anti-depressants) my sex drive is very high. As time goes on, meds changed & adjusted, my sex drive has plummeted. So much so that I not only am never in the mood, I really do not want sex. Of any kind.

I feel just awful for it. I know my husband is somewhat frustrated; he actually used to be unable to keep up with me. And now? I don't want it. I'm completely turned off. It's not because of him. We've always been faithful (as has he, I trust him) & the sex we do have is always awesome. I still like being intimate with him by cuddling and kissing, just not sex.

I find myself showering less to avoid it. :/ I think maybe something else may be going on? I'm not sure what but I know the meds must play a big role. But I need my meds to function; I've found the right combo and it's been 8 years of searching. I miss wanting to be touched. I miss wanting to touch him. It's a dreadful feeling.

What do I do? Thanks

[Travelinglady]

Hi! Alas, these meds are notorious for causing decreased sex drive and response. For the sake of your husband, I suggest you use some lubricant and allow him to have sex with you. I wish I knew something else to suggest.

[buzz bee]

Oh man I know the feeling so well. I used to be happy when my period came so I would not feel so guilty. Not only did I not want sex, I started to put on weight, and not just a little, a lot of weight. Talk about feeling like a "Debbie Downer".

I had a medication change and that is no longer a problem. Research on line and see what you come up with. That is how I found my new bipolar medication.

Hang in there. There is lots of help out there, just need to find the right nitch for you.

[Lemongrab]

I have the opposite problem...I want to be intimate with my boyfriend and I enjoy it, but since being on Paxil I have become anorgasmic and it is the most frustrating thing ever

[beeutterfly]

Originally Posted by Travelinglady

Hi! Alas, these meds are notorious for causing decreased sex drive and response. For the sake of your husband, I suggest you use some lubricant and allow him to have sex with you. I wish I knew something else to suggest.

I appreciate your response but there's no way I would roll over and say have at it. Honestly, I'm offended. Do you realize what you're implying here? He'd never go for it and I'd never let it.

[beeutterfly]

Originally Posted by buzz bee

Oh man I know the feeling so well. I used to be happy when my period came so I would not feel so guilty. Not only did I not want sex, I started to put on weight, and not just a little, a lot of weight. Talk about feeling like a "Debbie Downer".

I had a medication change and that is no longer a problem. Research on line and see what you come up with. That is how I found my new bipolar medication.

Hang in there. There is lots of help out there, just need to find the right nitch for you.

Thanks for that. My issue with a med change is that I've found, after years and years, the right medication combination that works for me. I feel like I'm sacrificing sex for sanity. I'm glad you've found what works for you.

[beeutterfly]

Originally Posted by Lemongrab

I have the opposite problem...I want to be intimate with my boyfriend and I enjoy it, but since being on Paxil I have become anorgasmic and it is the most frustrating thing ever

Ugh what a horrible feeling! It is very frustrating and I'm sorry you're struggling as well. My sex drive change started the same way as yours. I almost feel like it's been zapped out of me after years on these meds! Good luck to you.