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#21
I agree on yoga pants, but they look awful on me showing every bulge. I feel like I'm wearing sausage casing, but my pilates instructor looked really chic in hers.
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I can wear yoga pants, but only if the top covers my butt all the way. |
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I like yoga pants.
I wear the same jacket over all my clothing in cold months.. |
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#24
No idea. I don't feel better with what people call a pretty and feminine appearance. I do care about the way I look though, it's just not in the same way most women do so.
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#25
I think the media plays a big role in the social construction of image in general.
You should dress whatever way you are comfortable dressing. Wearing makeup or fancy clothes is just that, it's just a costume at the end of the day. |
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I dress how I dress for myself.
However, have you seem Catch Me If You Can? It's amazing what a good "costume" will do, and how different people will treat you. Simply because Leonardo Dicaprio wore a pilot uniform he was able to successfully use and cash like hundreds upon hundreds of fake checks! Hilarious. At any rate, I feel that how we present ourselves/the makeup we wear/the clothes we wear are a costume. And sometimes an old costume, though comfortable, does not fully reflect who we truly are anymore.. As we are always changing.. When I go out in sweats and no makeup men dismiss me.. When I put on makeup and put effort into my outfit (or wear a dress) they all look at me. It's amazing actually. |
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You know, I think I just thought of one reason why it's important to look nice. I ran out of my house this morning to do some errands. No shower, since I'd be wearing a hat and coat - who can tell if I look like a slob?
While driving from one plaza to another, less than an 1/8th of a mile, I got stopped for not wearing my seat belt. I got a ticket, not a warning. I think if I was driving a nicer car and didn't look like a slob, I would have gotten a warning. |
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I used to be beautiful before I gained 75 pounds. It was important to me, because growing up I was made fun of constantly. Let's face it, I was not a pretty child. Now that I no longer have my looks, I feel ashamed of myself whenever I go out. People respond to me differently. It sucks.
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My daughter hates when I mention about not wearing makeup and dressing up. It's not that I don't think she is beautiful without it... because she is gorgeous inside and out to me ...It's that I know how judgemental the real world is! I want to protect her, although I know I can't. She has the self confidence I always lacked!!! i STILL KEEP BUYING THE MAKE UP AND CLOTHES JUST IN CASE SHE CHANGES HER MIND! p.s My hang up not hers!
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Oh I know. And my only source of exercise right now is just walking in my apartment. Trying to do it several times a day.
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It is an expensive thing ($99) and it needs maintenance - I charge it every night - and the plastic wristband into which the "bit" goes is ugly, but I very much enjoy having it because it has enabled me to break away from the (ridiculous if you think of it in the context of world history...) notion that exercise requires special effort, special clothes, special structure, special set of mind. For the "honest count" that fitbit provides me I would wear the ugly wristband... |
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I definitely look for reasons to stay home more often now. When I do go out, I either wear a hat and slink around like no one can see me, or I make sure I have my hair and makeup done just right. Makes me feel better! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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#37
Well, if you don't care about people thinking you're a deadbeat underachieving slob, then why make a post at all? I read only your posts and that is the image in my head. Where on earth do you work that allows you to show up wearing yoga/sweatpants and a dirty old jacket that you wear every single day....and expect everyone else at work to come in dressed professionally? Why go to work at all if the "IDGAF about the world, so I'm gonna show up in my PJs" is the image you portray in a professional work environment?
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#38
Everyone is so focused on themselves that they're not addressing the problem...you. The girl who wants to give you the makeup isn't the problem. She's trying to help you because you probably look like a raggamuffin and yes, she probably is offended by having to get all dressed up for work and you look like you just rolled out of bed.
Part of being an adult is doing things you don't like to do, especially when it comes to the workplace. You SHOULD be putting an effort into how you dress for work. It's called being "professional". It's not about sticking it to the man, it's about running a business, and the customers run the business. The way you dress makes a statement, and your customers/clients will get their first impression on whether you care about your company or the customers, and how you dress will give them that impression. Since everyone is offering their own grievances on how they wish they can just show up to work in sweatpants, I'll offer mine. I work at an elementary school with no dress code. I am allowed to wear visible tattoos, piercings, and edgy hair. I can show up in my pajamas or sweatpants if I wanted to, but what message would that send to the staff and to the children? My dress affects my performance and first impressions. I have to look my best, and I don't have to wear make up or wear high heels to do that. |
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If my boss had presented us with a dress code, I would certainly follow it. However, no such thing occured.
It certainly wasn't a requirement for this woman to wear full makeup to work. But she chose to, because she wanted to. If she had freedom to look like a model, I must have freedom to look as I please as well. Your statement of how this woman was offended may be reversed. Because no where was it stated that her choice of attire was "correct" and mine was incorrect. And, DrSkipper, I do not appear to have "rolled out of bed". Yes, I wear sweats every day. But they are clean. My hair is combed and I am showered. (Hence my OCD). But I do not wear makeup or "fashionable" clothes. I would not unless my job required and I would not work at a place that did. |
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You have no right to call me names.
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