new man coming into my life and boyfriend issues

Yes, we can't always have sex because we don't live together and when we do have sex it is usually somewhere public trying to find a good hiding spot. We had sex last year a couple of times now it's been a year of having sex. Army guy took a quiz it said his strengths are his devotions and efforts his weakness is extreme manipulation tactics and he said sounds about right. I am like he is admitting to it!! I wanted to tell him that and say you were lying to me how do you love me when all you hinted was having sex with me?!? Also, criticized my kissing to boot! No wonder he can never get a girlfriend, I told him long ago if you have to do this to get a gf, then you will always wonder why your lonely and childless. I got called jealous! lol Hey, I was trying to help the guy out. He wanted me to give him children if we were together for a while and got married I said omg!

Told him to prove that he loves me saying doesn't make it true. Yep, always sexually frustrated. Army guy told me how he could provide for me with stability and I know my mom would tell me to take the offer. I don't wanna get with Army guy cuz he could provide me a home, I am struggling enough to save money to move (he knows I work)....I was attracted to him sexually but more physically because I thought he became a better and different man instead he looks like he is the same guy from 10 yrs ago. Sad, I came so close to telling him I love him and also asked him in a text am I falling...am I falling in love with you again? It felt like we were a real couple now than 10 yrs ago.

It sounds to me that somebody other than either of those two guys might be a better fit for you in the future. It seems that you are going in circles with both guys. Spinning wheels, so to speak.

We'll be old lmao! the stuff he said about my bf has my wheels spinning....

It's nice having guy friends. They are both giving you perspectives on the other. Seems competitive.

What's either one of these guys, planning for their futures? Are you going to financially independent woman route or are you planning completely domestic? Raising babies is a huge responsibility. I see why you are insistent that he prove his love, for you. Seems a man of many dreams. To live his dream or to live your dreams, is a big step.

I am trying to be financially independent still not there yet. My bf said he wants to work his way to store assistant at his job, his boss keeps giving him hours where he is working one day a week claiming he can't give him more hours and has to find his own. He has been at the job for 3 months and doesn't want to job hop anymore - which I can understand because employers are seriously using that against you more than ever but at the same time nobody can't live off of min wage! I told him yea you need a job but we have goals that we need to fulfill it is not about the employer. Told him how much longer do I need to wait? Too many promises by employers and **** ain't happening!

Army guy is gonna re-enlist for another 3 yrs and gonna weigh if the economy will get better in 3 yrs (it won't) and if it doesn't, he said he will stay in the military. He said he wants to have a family i am like with who?!? I begged him when he was here to not let me be something that I was never meant to be. he told me if you could put up with that **** with your boyfriend then you can handle raising a child. I told him I don't wanna be my parents and I never gravitated towards children all of my life anyway, a dog is better than a human child.

My sister and I were talking about Army guy the other night. She read more of my emails about him and told me she doesn't like him based on what I told her she said I can see domestic violence and this guy got the nerve to dictate when you should be married and thinks he can come in between people's relationships! Why is he now realizing he is in love with you? She said him saying women must respect him cuz he is in uniform, hell no, that is bold to say to someone. She said if Army guy has women and relationships figured out he wouldn't be posting all these rants on his facebook all the time. My sister said he needs to move on and stop dwelling over you he should've had his **** figured out long ago which I told him that.

Honestly, he broke it off with me in 04 couldn't trust women = couldn't trust me. I was hurt by him deeply, I wanted to be with him back then and told him 10 yrs that I may be in love with him (I was 18 and he was 21) which scared him back then. I didn't consider him an ex not sure what he was besides a friend. Sister asked me what's his problem with your boyfriend? I told her and she said boyfriend is not his problem.