Want to flush him out

I know from past experience with him that no matter what I give him, no matter what I do for him, he would never want anything other than warm body from me, he would never feel anything other than making out and sex with me.

Now, my problem is ever since he is back, I'm still doing what I did in past. Worse is, in past at least he pretended to care somewhat for me but now he doesn't bother. He needs me, he will call me and I would go to him.

I want to break this. I want to say 'No' to him when he calls me.

I'm only one single around here in my circle and everyone is busy with their family lives. So, I'm completely alone. Doesn't have anything to do. This makes me always available and of course I'm lonely.

But, then he isn't curing my loneliness. He is only using me, taking advantage of my condition.

How do I gather courage to flush him out. Decline when he calls me.

Unable to understand myself. Why I'm doing this to myself? Why am I letting him toy me?

When alone, I think no matter what I won't next time accept his offer. But, then when he calls, all resolutions are gone. I go to him wagging my tail and come back with tail dropped. I hate myself.

Block his number? How come you need to go to him and not the other way around?

He doesn't call me on phone and so, blocking number wouldn't help. I had tried blocking him but when he needs me he finds ways to reach me.

I go to him, he doesn't come to me. He just calls me, picks me up and take me with him.

He is biggest jerk and yet he is part of me that I'm unable to cut out. He deserves to be shunned. And I, foolish me, can't understand that. His wife even has shunned him out of her life. Why the hell I can't???????????????

I don't quite understand how, he can show up at your place and take you?

Yeah...I'm confused to. Where you live, can you get the police involved? Maybe have a restraining order put on him?

Loneliness can drive most of us to do things we regret later. Good on you for recognizing the problem and reaching out for help.

I think if you set up some sort of distraction/reward, maybe cue up a favourite film, so you're ready with something comforting and enjoyable to distract you from you loneliness when you say no.

I think you'll find the strength, you already know you need to do this for yourself. Just focus on how crummy you feel afterwards, and how proud of yourself you'll feel when you say no.

You said he doesn't call then you says he call and picks u up? I am confused . You said his wife? Is he married?

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