[JJORANGE]

I'm 22 years old, living by myself and going to University for social work. I've been in therapy now for depression and anxiety for about 9 months, although I've been suffering for as long as I can remember. At the moment I don't have a boyfriend, nor do I really want one - to much drama for me- I like being by myself and having my freedom. But lately all I've been thinking about is wanting a baby. I used to be a nanny, and seeing the pics of them on facebook growing up and just looking so much older than when I was with them, it just makes me miss when they were babies

I've never actually wanted kids before now, like i said I like my freedom, I like sleeping in and not having to worry about anyone but myself... And yet I just want a baby!!

I'm not financially ready for one, and im certainly not emotionally ready, but I can't get over this.

Any one feel like this?

[divine1966]

Well I am 50 and sometimes I want a baby. Most certainly I am not having one. Wanting a baby isn't wrong. It doesn't mean you need to have one right now.

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[healingme4me]

Before I had babies, yes I want to say that I experienced what you are describing. That was before I met my exhusband. I knew that it was a path that I was choosing.

It's great that you are recognizing this about yourself and are logically thinking it through. Something to consider as you pursue your career and also something to consider as you search for your future employer. Will they have family friendly policies and excellent benefits, etc.

[Jan1212]

I would finish up classes and get the degree ... so you and baby can be financially stable so you can get a nanny or daycare.

I felt the same way. I waited until I got out of school. I'm back getting my higher education with a 2 year old and it's so much harder but I got used to it. No sleep during the first year (newborns feed every 2-3 hours) flared up my depression. I avoided meds during pregnancy. 3rd trimester was the worst make sure you have people around u who understand how hormonal you may be.

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[BDPpartner]

I understand the urge you are describing as I have had it for several years now, but like you I recognize that now is not the best time to bring a baby into the equation. You however have plenty of time to prepare yourself for the day that you do become a mum, your in a great place to say right I'm going to finish university and head down my chosen career path which will set both me and my future child up for a successful future. It will also give you time to make a plan of action as to what steps maybe helpful to ensure that you will be supported emotionally pre and postnatal.

I have two friends who are sisters both have some mental health issues the elder of the two fell pregnant which on medication and part way through her pregnancy she had to swap medications with all that that entails and normal hormonal changes she had a rough time and since having baby has struggled with postnatal depression, the younger sister got herself prepared she spoke to her doctors and therapist they gradually made the changes needed before she became pregnant they also had a plan of action as to giving her the extra support needed to ensure she stayed emotionally well and yes that meant almost weekly therapy throughout her pregnancy but she has had a much better outcome than her sister. It was the preparation that the younger sibling took that made things workout in a more positive way.

You are lucky enough to be able to tailor your life to fit with your desire, that should allow you to have the most successful outcome; only down side you have to be patient ��

[black-roses]

I know how you felt last year I went through the same urge wanting a baby. So you know what I did I bought myself a baby doll it really helped I felt soothed it then became something that was a comfort to me I felt safe with it then after that doll I felt I became stronger emotionally not needing validation and approval from others. I think the baby thing was more about me feeling sad and resistericted like I couldn't come in contact with my inner child and that was causing me emotional blockages within myself and relationships. It may sound strange but finding something you used as a child to comfort you can sometimes heal that craving for children. Like after I bought that doll I haven't thought about children and pregnancy since and plus it is just a comfort to me when I feel taken for granted for others. I think children can be very symbolic maybe your craving children because you feel like you are missing innocence in either yourself and the world and you want a child to reassure you that there is still lightheaded playfulness and innocence. Just another way i see it but honestly try hugging your favourite childhood toy maybe that will bring you the security you felt you've lost