Faking orgasms?

I have never faked one. But I am seeing a new guy now and I am at the point where I think I need to fake. He cares a lot about it and is very frustrated!! And I am frustrated because he is!!!

I have always had trouble orgasming with men, but is it easy myself! Though I have not had too many long term type relationships to really even experiment. I was married at one point and he would get mad when I would try to help it along by doing it myself.

How many women out here have faked it? Do you do it all the time to please the guy?? I read that only one in five women can orgasm from penetration alone and believe it! When I was younger it was easier, but now it is harder that I am older.

I tryed to tell him it is not him, it is me. I can tell he is also very good at what he does and he aims to please!!

If you never faked one, then don't start now. It's a slippery slope!
If he cares a lot about it.....then he SHOULDNT be very frustrated!
And your frustration doesn't help the situation.

Have you been down on him? Now let him do the same for you. Talk to him. Tell him. Explain things, before you even get to the bedroom bec stress is such a mood killer!

And don't do anything to just "please a guy", it lowers your status as a partner & a woman.

its sometimes okay to fake it but usually its best to communicate about stuff like this

Is this guy the married man you're having an affair with? I thought you ended it with him?

I'd say this is good advice for a one night stand.

If stimulating yourself is the only way you know how to, then I'd tell him that. Maybe the first time having sex, I wouldn't fake it, but I'd just act content with only him finishing. Once you get more regular, I'm sure the conversation can't be avoided. Then, once you get more comfortable, yoou can try to relax and see if he can do it to you. But, the man shouldn't get mad because you like what you like. Isn't the reason for sex to feel good?

No, I didn't end it.

I was in a very serious relationship and my BF would get so depressed if I couldn't come. He thought that he was a failure so I started faking it which never helped the situation to get better.

I would try to talk to your new guy and explain that the more pressure, the fewer results and for him to just know that you are enjoying yourself whether you come or not.

My BF was such a sex maniac that he'd want to go twice and what I ended up doing was faking the first orgasm with him and then suggesting that we masturbate together sitting across from one another and then I'd give myself an orgasm and he's think that it was my 2nd one when it was only my first. That could always be your fall-back plan but your first priority should be communicating with your partner and trying to figure it out without having to resort to plan B.

Good luck!