[marriedwithacause]

Ok, so i am like a closet woman...lol, my husband wants me to tell him my fantasies......and talk dirty while in the middle of the deed...we have been married for 3 1/2 years, and together for 4. I for the life of me cannot tell him what my fantasies are, nor can I talk dirty!! How can i get the courage to do this?

[salukigirl]

maybe start out with something tame. once he rewards you doing that with performing whatever for you, it might give you the courage to go a little farther.

[MyBestKids2]

Maybe write it down, send him an email or text!!

[versimilitude]

You should not do anything that would make you uncomfortable or make you lose your self-respect!

That being said, it's ok to try new things if they fall within your guidlines. And I think he just wants to talk about his fantasies, give him a chance to tell you about his.

It's Ok if you don't have fantasies or if you don't want to talk about yours.

[marriedwithacause]

Thanks, It's all great to hear different opinions on this. I don't feel comfortable just out right saying something dirty, but he is very expressive during sex (maybe the only time...lol) and he thinks it should be easy to be open between the sheets cause we have been married for 3 1/2 years........i think my fear of "dirty talk" is what if I say something that makes him say "omg...she didn't just say that" Wouldn't that just be embarrassing...lol. has anybody said anything that could have been embarrassing b4?