A husband and porn???

Porn may not seem like a need to you.

Neither is alcohol. Or drugs. Or tobacco. Or the internet. Or caffeine. Or chocolate. Or popcorn. Or gambling.

One can become addicted to any and all of the above. And once it becomes an addiction...the "choice" goes out the window.

No it doesn't excuse the behavior. But if you fail to realize how powerful an addiction can be...then you're missing the point.

thank you razz.

Razz, I wasn't talking about addiction. I was responding to someone who said that a husband shouldn't have to stop something that is hurting his wife.

I posted a link to a porn addiction information site. Porn addiction is as real as any other addiction, and should be treated as one. Saluki was basing her point on the assumption that it isn't an addiction, and I was saying that even if that's the case, the original poster has the right to ask him to stop if it really bothers her.

And Saluki, when I say committed relationship, I mean a relationship that is bound by law. That doesn't mean two people cannot be committed to each other outside of marriage, but the fact of the matter is that nothing is keeping them together if things get hard or unpleasant. You can walk away anytime. That's not the case in marriage.

I don't claim to know more about relationships than people who are dating. I do, however, know for a fact that no relationship can survive without compromise, and sometimes that compromise requires that one person sacrifice something that they want for the good of the other. If you can't understand that, then you are going to be very disappointed if/when you get married.

And it's childish to demand that a thread get closed down just because no one agrees with you. It's not being controlled. Not a single person has demanded that you not post. Not a single person has been insulting towards you. We disagree with your point, and we're explaining why. That's all.

if youre just going to deny words that you have said, and put words in my mouth, im done. its funny to watch someone so self-righteous do exactly what theyre complaining about. youre reflecting your own rationship on everyone when, in fact, thats not how everyone feels. don't say 'we' disagree. and believe me, you have been insulting to me. saying something in a nice tone or proper grammar does't mean its not ignorant and disrespectful.

I am going to be closing this thread in view that the op
has not posted since April 1 on this. Not due to someone
demanding it be closed. Let's all agree to disagree and
move on from here. We should not force our opinions on
others. No one is right or wrong in opinions. Please
let's not argue. If anyone needs to comment further please pm either myself or another mod or admin. thanks Elaine