Women raping women

This is such a shady issue, right?

I mean, how could a woman prove she was raped by a woman....

I don't think a rape kit could prove anything.

I'm honestly not sure how rape is defined.

It's just, I think this happened to me last year, and I was hoping I could find some answers.

Thanks....

((((((((( Louisa ))))))))))

Sorry to read this happened to you.

You may want to check with rape relief to talk about what happened, if you haven't already called and talked your Dr, a counsellor or therapist.

It might be difficult to write your questions here.

I hope you find answers.

Hi Lovely Louisa,

This is a GOOD start. major hugs to you ...

I have not been raped by a woman . I have had some indecent exposure stuff and inapporpriate touching that was unwanted . And I let it slde.

No wait .. I was almost raped . I keep forgetting I guess it was by a woman I never called it that . the one that happened to me when I was 16 . I hate this one . It was with a bisexual 18 year old woman who was my friend and her 49 year old boy friend who was an alchoholic. I had a little too much to drink and was trying not to pass out . They took me up stairs and the details I don't want to get into . After wards when I declined going to the mall the next day they would drive by my life guard chair and park in the parking lot. I can just imagine what they were doing . which it never occured to me until right this momment . Thats how abuse is , You don't think about stuff till long after . And funny how therapists just don't see or point this stuff out even though I have descibed these stories over and over .

I suppose there could be physical signs and a way to get DNA . But as in all rapes it has to be done within a 24 hour period . Maybe even less.
So its the time element you have here and its a double ouch because theres the loss of proof and the distance of time .

But you can talk it through with a sexual assalt hot line . They may direct you to some counceling and you can work it out there . I sent one woman a written letter telling her how her behavior effected me . Let her have the same where it belonged.

I hope this helps some what ,
I really didn't expect

I mean I haven't really called it a rape because It wasn't penetration from a man but there was from the woman .
it was just sick and gross.

and I was a Virgin .

great this is just great..


You may get some feedback in the abuse group here as well. As in all abuse it just hurts Lovely . one must move through it the anger as well .

Im sorry this happened to you .

trust me.

it happens.

violation is violation if it is not consenual...male, female, what ever. a penis is not always needed.

and it doesn't have to be a stranger...sometimes its a parent.

stumpy (who despite the amused modd thingie just ain't feeling it)

It's just, I think this happened to me last year, and I was hoping I could find some answers.


this is where the question comes in I suppose. what do you mean you think?

I think rape would mean you saying no and they continued or taking you by force. too many if's in there with it being an open statement I think.

Yeah Im sorta sitting here in shock . when I saw the thread I thought . i've never heard of this .

Hi Bebop,

Its this kind of wording thats kept me where I've been. I wasn't taken by force nor did i say no and they continued.

I was almost passed out stuggling fadding in and out . what happened was like I was in shock . I didn't know what to do. I just laid still and moved when things got real bad . stuff happened fast . they caried me down stairs. helped me into my house.

I remembered most of it . I didn't want it . i and it started out of town in the car on a deserted road. they were just fooling around. I can't remember where it was . I just woke up in thier upstairs room .

so you have to be able to give your concent .

I believe that IS rape also and its not by force .

I just needed to add this for whom ever .

and right Stumpy , rape happens by fathers and mothers. female cousisns.


Patricia

auroralso oh I agree and I am so sorry that happened to you. no one should ever have to go thru that. thanks for clearing that up hon.

Rape is when some thing is taken from you sexually that was not offered.

And that includes if you were drunk or did something to yourself that caused you to be incapacitated. It may not be wise to do so, but it still doesn't give someone else the right to harm you or do what they want to you.