[uswcew05]

So my husband got laid off 4 months ago and I think he is getting depressed. He is constantly looking, sending resumes. Is going to school part time since that is all we can afford. He has a phone interview tomorrow - keeping my fingers crossed. I have been reading the Mars/ Venus books so I have a better understanding that he needs his space to deal wth his stress in his own way, but I am starting to wonder if he will come out of his cave soon. Sometimes I wonder if he resents me because I still have my job. Sometimes I wonder if he cares about me and my feelings. When I bring them up (scared, insecure, worried,stressed) he says not to worry, it will be OK, basically invalidates my feelings. Before he was staying up late and now he is going to bed before me. What gives? He says he is OK, which I have to believe and can't push, but come on. Istarted seeing a counselor last week. (yes my husband knows). But still. I hate this recession. I hate that people want a 4 year degree and 15 years of experience in his line of work means nothing. I really hope that when he starts working we can reconnect and I will see that we will are going to be OK.

Thanks for letting me vent.

[Hunny]

:hugh:

It will all be okay...you can do it...you're doing everything you can. Keep the inner strength going and remember to take care of yourself. Glad you got to say some of your feelings here.

H

[ddheal]

This recession is taking its toll on everyone in so many ways. Each of us is having to find a way to cope and make the best of each day. It gets so tiresome to send resumes out week after week with no response and attend interviews where there are hundreds of people vying for a few position. I don't know what the answer is, other than to say, all of this change is stirring up the pot of our society....perhaps we will all land in new places where we will ultimately be happier. That is my hope.