[Jan1212]

I don't have actual job experience, my past jobs ended in bad terms (when I was suffering) and they asked for the workplace history contacts. I know I can't get anything on this field except for odd hours and weekends - that's how new people start off. I live around competitive crowded cities

I couldn't land anything except for today in which I had anxiety at the end of the interview, it lasted so long. First she started with all my information, made me sign papers, and then specific job responsibilities. Finally the questions, there were a lot of them she could see my jitteriness and I stuttered, they wouldnt' end. My answers were so generic. At the end I heard there were other people needing to be interviewed and that they will pick whoever is best, that's how I know I didn't get it.

My bf didn't want me to take it anyway because we only get to see each other on weekends. My awkwardness ruins everything, I want the job, but there's conflict of not seeing my bf when he is free. This whole getting a job process worries and tires me, I can't sleep, I don't know what to think.. if there's anything I can clarify please ask

[carrie_ann]

hey Jan

al job interviews i've ever been to i've been told others were still waiting to be interviewed and the best person would be picked. it doesn't mean you won't get the job, it's just something they have to tell you. plus interviewers are used to folks being nervous in an interview ... you wouldn't believe how many folks slip and let it show at some point, even folks going for managerial/executive.

hang on in there and wait to see for sure! and even if you don't get this job, you can use what you learned from this interview to make your next one better.

best wishes and good luck

[misscath007]

I wish you the best of luck. It's not easy going out on interviews, they make my nervous also. Lots of people in competition for only a limited amount of jobs. Take it easy on yourself, you did well.

[Hopefor2012]

Give yourself some credit. At least you had a chance to be interviewed, which nowadays is hard to get. All we can ask of ourselves is that we do our best, and the rest is up to the powers above. And if you don't get the job, then maybe it's a good thing. I once worked for a terrible employer who pretty much ruined my life, both mentally and spiritually. In retrospect, I should have declined the job, but at the time I was desperate for work. Believe me, sometimes not getting the job is actually better for you.

[CastlesInTheAir]

Ugh I absolutely hate 2nd interviews I always slam dunk the first one but for some reason in the 2nd my mind always goes completely blank....

In the future advice to me is bringing a notebook with you with points to remember and what not is not frowned upon and interviewers actually view you as more.prepared in an interview

[Perna]

Is there anything open where your boyfriend or other friends work? I went to an interview where my girlfriend worked and that helped me a lot; I knew I already knew someone there so that made me more confident and I knew they knew and liked my girlfriend so would know and like me. Maybe your boyfriend can ask around at his company or his friends' companies and you can do that with girlfriends? I've worked where my parents worked too, when I was in school, and gotten jobs through my parents' friends, etc.

If interviewing is hard; get a volunteer job at a large place and, when you get comfortable and get to knowing people there and they, you, when a job becomes available it is easier to jump from volunteer to part- or full-time paid work.

[Jan1212]

Perna - thanks. My bf he works in construction he just got a new job so he doesn't know much yet. my parent is in consturciton as well, my other doesn't work. none of my siblings work. I don't have a lot of extended family around my uncle would like me to watch my lil cousins once ina while. A lot of people know I'm awkward or "weird" I guess. I am looking for a specific field and yes I am in the process of applying for a volunteer position but I will need professional references which I applied to find references in t he first place

Ty