I was sitting in the staff room when I saw my supervisor. She asked me if I done the front. I said the back but I was confused. She said "oh for goodness sake" in an annoyed tone. She went out. Then came back in and told me to hover the front and clean the windows. She also said "it's not fair on the others". Why the other staff? When she said that, I felt really bad. I went out and I cleaned. While I was cleaning, I felt so sad. I had suicidal thoughts and the bad thoughts again. I hovered the front and cleaned the windows. And plus, I overworked. It nearly time to go too when she told me about this. I finished and I went back into the staff room and I tried to find her. I asked someone but they didn't know. The supervisor wasn't there. She went off I guess. My supervisor does swear in front of the staff and is angry often. I'm worried, I don't want to lose my job. I can't help it if I'm a retard. I forgot to do it. It's my mistake. I'm not perfect. I do try my best.

[IceCreamKid]

Hi Happy. You did what the supervisor did when she said to; unless she brings it up again, I would just overlook her nasty manner. What you describe is how my boss talks to me most of the time. It isn't right, but it's not my fault, and your supervisor's nasty remarks are not your fault either.

Everyone deserves respect and everyone has worth. That includes me and more importantly, that includes you.

Originally Posted by IceCreamKid

Hi Happy. You did what the supervisor did when she said to; unless she brings it up again, I would just overlook her nasty manner. What you describe is how my boss talks to me most of the time. It isn't right, but it's not my fault, and your supervisor's nasty remarks are not your fault either.

Everyone deserves respect and everyone has worth. That includes me and more importantly, that includes you.

Hello, You're right. It's so rude what they do. I'm glad I'm not alone. It was only my supervisor. I do have a manager or boss and she's my employer too. She's nice and she really isn't nasty.

[nuttychew]

Originally Posted by happycheeks

I was sitting in the staff room when I saw my supervisor. She asked me if I done the front. I said the back but I was confused. She said "oh for goodness sake" in an annoyed tone. She went out. Then came back in and told me to hover the front and clean the windows. She also said "it's not fair on the others". Why the other staff? When she said that, I felt really bad. I went out and I cleaned. While I was cleaning, I felt so sad. I had suicidal thoughts and the bad thoughts again. I hovered the front and cleaned the windows. And plus, I overworked. It nearly time to go too when she told me about this. I finished and I went back into the staff room and I tried to find her. I asked someone but they didn't know. The supervisor wasn't there. She went off I guess. My supervisor does swear in front of the staff and is angry often. I'm worried, I don't want to lose my job. I can't help it if I'm a retard. I forgot to do it. It's my mistake. I'm not perfect. I do try my best.

I am sorry you have to deal with a nasty supervisor. I have had a few of them - it sucks. I agree. Don't bring it up and just kill e'm with kindness.

[Nicks_Nose]

I have a supervisor who is hard to underrstand and i knwo another lady who is an excellent worker and her boss is nitpicky and overly critical but it has less to do with criticism of the person's performance and more to do with their own stress of juggling everything they have to juggle too. They also have stresses that grate on them and if one little thing seemss to upset the apple cart, they can get snooty and b*tchy. It is human nature.

It is not nice to be on the receiving end of that reaction, I agree. I get it from my supe too often myself. I no notice, though, that there are times she also picks on other people besides me. So I know I am not the only target of her reactions.

I have been in the work force for 30 years and I still take things personally when a supe gets upset with a performance of mine, but i am learning to let it go, thanks to co-workers. They also have to deal with her and it helps to know I am not the only one.

When these things happen, I remind myself of a moment when my supe walked past me, with only a couple of minutes left to my shift, and she asked if I had done a certain chore. She didn't even stop to wait for a response from me...she just kept walking. My coworker looked at me and did the sound of a cat growl and I smiled and walked away to sign off my shift. Maybe when your boss throws a temper tantrum...think of a cat growl and continue on with your day.

[ryuken]

I usually subscribe to funny cat or animal images feed. That way it always keeps my mood cool. Also sometimes it does help if you develop sense of humor. It can't undo things that happened to you but it does help you get over it.

[Crescentmoon]

Originally Posted by nuttychew

I am sorry you have to deal with a nasty supervisor. I have had a few of them - it sucks. I agree. Don't bring it up and just kill e'm with kindness.

Replying nastiness with kindness is a really difficult thing to do, especially if your boss was really unfair to you. It gives you a bad taste being nice to someone who doesn't deserve to be treated nicely, but who you have to treat nicely because they are your superior (and they can screw you if you so much as lift a finger against them)

Why is this kind of thing happening? Why are employees 'forced' to treat their superiors with respect even when they don't deserve it? Why can employees not voice out their opinion, their version of things without the fear of repercussion? Isn't this oppression? I thought this kind of thing shouldn't happen in civilised society.

Isn't there a mechanism to defend employees from getting bullied at work by their superiors? I don't think anyone should be afraid to go to work, I don't think anyone should be subjected to fear by their superiors. This isn't how a civilised society should be.

[phoenix7]

unfortunately the fear of retribution and possibly losing their job mainly stops people from complaining - I have had many "bad" boss's - I try to let it flow off me but its hard sometimes when you fell an injustice has been done

I did have one success though - when unfortunately i lost it when my "manager " decided to rip all the cute pics and things off our lockers because she had had a complaint about one silly item on a locker instead of just taking down the one

one of the things she took of my locker was a bow a colleague who had since passed away had put there - i know it sounds silly but it really upset me that she had thrown it away -

i went to her and complained - told her i wanted it back - went through the rubbish and then lodged a formal complaint

she left a few months later yay!!!!

its hard but it can be done - depending on what you can afford to lose - other times i have kept quiet ..

sends hugs to one and all

[brokenandalone1234]

I deal with a female and male supe who is like this. The female *****es when I don't get my stuff done but never comes up to help me when I call for back up. She says things like "everyone else gets it done" or just plain *****es when I don't get it done. Come to find out though that the reason why everyone else can get their stuff done is because she comes up to help them when they call for back up. Yet she tells me I will only come up if you have a line to the coolers. Which is against my company's policy. The policy at my company states if we have 4 or more people in line at the counter than we have to call for back up and back up is supposed to come. At my work they have cut our hours so bad that we have two people per shift. One supe and one cashier that is it. I can understand her not wanting to come and help on her lunch or break. I don't want to either but when she is not on either she is supposed to help. The male that I deal with his lazier than crap. If we get lucky enough to have 3 people on our shift that includes some days a mid shift person who normally leaves at 7:30pm than he will make them take out the trash and than will not come help when the other person is taking out the trash. Plus even when he has his straighting done he will not come help with the front even when we have been so busy that the front person can not get it done alone. I know how you feel. I am scared to speak my mind to my boss for the fear of getting fired. He seems to side with the supe for than anything. No matter how many times I tell him what is going on.

Thanks everyone for replying I'm doing better now since I've been here for 6 weeks. The supervisor swears but I block it out. She doesn't complain as much or puts her angry moods on me. She does let me know what to do. I'm happier here. I know what to do.