[sesame]

My parents have been driving me insane about not having a job.

I've been applying to basically everything I've been qualified for! The places that DO call me (like one found my resume on monster.com) are a bit too far away to do full time on a daily basis (~2 hours away) while planning on going back to school in January. At the same time, my school application was completed, but I haven't heard anything back on the application status, and I know they're supposed to be setting up interviews for applicants. They said in the beginning of October that I'd know within 2-3 weeks, but I still haven't heard anything.

My parents complain about me not doing anything if I stay at home, but if I go out, they yell about where I'm getting the gas money or the money to pay for the places I go to (e.g. $5 to go to a local concert).

I feel like I just can't win. I want to have a job too. I left my last job in August for another position in a different company, but the position became temporary and I wasn't needed anymore. I had a few interviews, but nothing ever came of them. It just feels like a slap in the face when my parents tell me that I should get a job. As if I haven't been trying to do so for the past few months!

[gimmeice]

(((( Sesame )))))) I am sending you lots of hugs.

In a situation like this all you can do is try to find a job which it sounds like you are doing. Have you tried calling the places that you apply for? I have heard that it can help. I hope your parents are able to see that you are trying.

[Umbral_Seraph]

You are in no way alone. I hear crap from my parents about everything every day, and I have for a long time. And about jobs being far away, the closest callback I've gotten was more 500 miles away!

[TheTimelessness]

It's typical for mangers to never call you back if they're uninterested in you or your résumé. Personally I feel that this is discourteous and extremely unprofessional. But that is the standard right now. Your college however should have a different standard. They should notify you with your current application status and schedule an interview. I think that you should make a few phone calls yourself to follow up with this college. Academic advisers and counselors are, in my experience, very lazy people. If someone is unhelpful that's okay. Simply move on from there and continue advocating for yourself. It's just a matter of finding that one person who is willing and eager to help. Everything should look promising after that so please don't become discouraged, okay?

As for how your parents react, and feeling like you can't win, I really sympathize. Not everyone can juggle school with a full time job. Some people can. Even when people can handle both, affordable housing is just out of reach. Right now I've found someone to split rent with should I become employed, and we'll still be unable to afford any apartment within the one-hundred twenty miles that we've searched. Most people are quite frankly, too far removed from the situation to understand the difficulties.

For one reason or the other your parents treat you in a way that which is making you feel upset. Despite whatever the reason, they need to be told that what they are doing is hurtful. Maybe you could tell them that,
"I love you, and I need your help. I'm struggling to find a job right now. But I am trying to find employment. Telling me to just get a job is hurtful. Please be respectful of me and my feelings. Please respect that an honest effort is being made here. We need to work together and be there to help each other. Maybe you could help me by discussing the ways that I could become more independent. Asking why I don't have a job yet isn't helpful to either of us."

These discussions aren't suited for everyone. Please take a moment to consider whether or not sitting down and discussing your feelings with them would be right for you. Different people have different mindsets. Some parents simply do not care. They could care less whether or not a child is trying. They just want them out of the house and gone. Even if that means forcibly evicting a person and making them homeless. Some parents just wish that their whoopsie baby never existed. While some people are disillusioned and believe that if you don't have a job then you just aren't trying hard enough. If you find that these discussions cannot help then I do recommend speaking with a therapist immediately. There are ways to cope and continue. Please hang in there.

[sesame]

On the unfortunate side of things in regard to school, I received an email this morning saying "Congratulations again on your acceptance to _____ University!"...

and then I received an email a few hours later saying "Please disregard the previous message." I did call the graduate admissions department and they said they would call or email to schedule an interview, but it was a weird way to start off the day, lol.

Also, it seems like the only jobs that are open around here involve more direct care, e.g. aiding older people with oral hygeine, bathing, toilet use, etc., and I really don't feel remotely comfortable with those positions :/

[Jan1212]

I hated being nagged about getting a job, for so long. they don't understand how tough it is to find work now, and the frustration just makes it harder. My parent got a job through family so it wasn't hard at all for him plus this was years ago when work was falling from the sky.

I was nagged for years, every single day. I went crazy. I avoided dinner family parties just so they wouoldn't call me out, and that just made our relationships worse. Seriously they would be sarcastic and asking "So what are you doing with life?" every time. I would be my aunt's taxi, taking her and my cousins to places. Even though I explained (that I was looking and trying) they believed I was lazy I even overheard them talking bad about me. - I'm sure your situation isn't as bad as mine.

I do have a job now and almost graduating, parents backed off, you're probably young - things will fall into place sooner or later. Just keep trying and don't go crazy like I did because it will get better.