[doggiedo]

My supervisor (and I use that term losely b/c I am a director of my dept) is a dean. She is supposed to be committed to her job. Yet she is constantly coming in late, leaving early, etc.

This week alone, she came in 3 hours late on Monday because she had to drop off stuff at City Hall. Yesterday she had to leave at noon because her son had pink eye and she had to pick him up. Today she's late because her kids have a delay and they don't go into school until 10am. It's like there is always something.

I was talking to another co-worker who doesn't have kids, and we both feel like she is getting a lot of leway b/c she has kids. I am trying to be kind and understanding, but this is rediculous.

I should also note that she wants to see if she can take Fridays off b/c at her old job, she did that and it helped a lot, in terms of getting errands done, etc. I'm like - yeah - my mom worked 70 hour weeks with us two kids and we did just fine! People handle work weeks differently, but you get it done if you want to be a mom and a professional.

On top of that, it's hard to stay motivated when your boss is barely there. It's rediculous. I can't seem to do anything about it though. How do I let this go. It literally drives me (and a ton of other people) nuts!

[CastlesInTheAir]

Fridays eh? Lol

If it really isn't causing significant problems and her boss is okay with it I'd just try to let it go. Moms really do have a lot to cope with outside of work and if you obsess about it it will only make you more miserable. If she is taking advantage gratuitously it will come up eventually.
Why do you need a boss there to be motivated?

And yeah Trish ...Fridays lol. If it was me I'd want Mondays

[doggiedo]

idk why it bothers me so much. I guess I feel less motivated when I know she is getting the day off. Honestly, I think she is just lazy and doesn't take her job seriously. I look at her getting the day off and think "Why can't I get the day off too?" lol. I mean I'd like to sleep in one day, u know?

Also, she often puts stuff in our court that she doesn't get done. I think, "well, if you were here more often, maybe you would get it done and would't have to put it off or give it to someone else to do." I know I'm being mean, but I feel like I can't help it. I have tried for several months (she's new this year) to give her some slack...but I feel she's majorly taking advantage of it.

I want to let it go, I truly do. But, that's easier said than done.

I know... I understand very well. Been there too. In hindsight it is much better to just mind your own and let it go even if she is taking advantage of the situation. You won't win and it will just cause bitterness and resentment to build up and make you miserable. Hope you can let it go. Good luck with that.

[Leed]

I understand your feelings completely. If she is the DEAN, and yet she's sloughing off the work on everyone else, why shouldn't all of YOU get paid more for doing HER job? Those are my feelings anyway -- I know it would never happen. It just seems unfair for her to be paid much MORE than all of you, yet she does so much LESS. And she has the title besides!

Plus there must be times when you have to consult her about something. Who do you go to then since she's the Dean? Obviously, whatever the issue is, has to wait until she returns from wherever she went and that just makes things pile up. That's not a good way to run an office.

I feel for you. And it would bother me too, but since there's not a darn thing you can do about it, you may as well just let it go. Just do the best you can and what I've found is your work WILL be rewarded. I worked in a college setting before, and ran into the same thing. I WAS promoted to a better job so word does get around. Best of luck and God bless. Hugs, Lee

I think there are some people who just have this special talent of being able to get away with stuff that others' normally wouldn't be able to. Oh, how I admire them. My mom had a minimum wage job, and we were taught to behave and be home alone at a very young age because she never had anyone to watch us, and couldn't leave work or come in late all of the time. Eventually, it will be addressed with her, but it may take awhile. I think HR and the big bosses are actually scared to confront certain employees, perhaps for legal reasons......I don't know.

[1stLady]

Maybe she is working because she needs the money but finds it hard to get organised. Have you thought of asking her how things are going ? You may be able to offer advice to her.