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Old Apr 27, 2013, 05:16 PM
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I am new here and this is my first post. I've been in the same job for over ten years and have seen many changes in staff and mangement. I really liked my job and my dept. at the beginning but the last 5 years or so have been filled with disappointment, frustration and apathy. Others in my dept. who feel the same about things have either retired early or transferred to a new dept. I only have about 6 or 7 years to go until retirement, and don't feel like starting over in a new dept. however, I am finding my management team very difficult to work under. I've tried talking to my Supervisor, but get no where. It's getting more and more frustrating to face these people daily. Anyone else here have this sort of experience?

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Old Apr 28, 2013, 02:10 AM
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Welcome! Let's give it some more time to see if anyone else can relate. What kind of things are these people doing to you, if you don't mind my asking?
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Old Apr 28, 2013, 03:48 AM
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I have not had this sort of problem as i always worked for myself, but if i had i would go above the management team and talk directly to the bosses or board. other than that i would keep my head down and just think of your job as a way to get the money you require, work hard, save hard and when you do retire have one almighty party to celebrate (but don't invite any one who has made your time at work difficult)
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Old Apr 28, 2013, 06:32 AM
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yes and I had to leave. I was not the only one who left. but you could buddy buddy with that person maybe and influence his thinking with ideas. but that might not be the answer either. or you could try to write some "nice" letters to everyone to get whatever changes you'd like to see specifically but NAAAAH(comedy injection). is it really worth it. sorry my reply is not so useful either. take care.
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Old Apr 28, 2013, 06:27 PM
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I've experienced bullying, in the workplace. Usually, try to resolve things, one on one. I work under a contract, there is a grievance procedure in place, for such things. Your message sounds frustrated because you went to your supervisor, which would be the logical step and nothing happened. And without such a contract, as I work under, it would seem, difficult to go to the next line of supervisor/manager. Ugh, frustrating, indeed. Hope things, settle down where you work.
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Old Apr 30, 2013, 01:13 AM
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Welcome! Let's give it some more time to see if anyone else can relate. What kind of things are these people doing to you, if you don't mind my asking?

It's mostly my Supervisors. They are "control freaks." You can't do anything without someone looking over your shoulder or checking up on your performance. Even with all my years of experience my Supervisor and some office staff who "think" they are my supervisor interfere with my day to day functions. They also don't speak to us at times in a respectful manner. It's discouraging.
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Old Apr 30, 2013, 02:36 AM
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So it's like they micromanage, not trusting the workers to perform their jobs without supervision?

Do they bully by actually being verbally abusive?
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Old Apr 30, 2013, 07:39 AM
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Bullied at almost all of my 80 jobs I have had over the years....I think if you have an open and vulnerable personality, you are more susceptible to bullying, I know I have found this true....

I have tried to stay away from it, currently I work as a substitute child care associate for a local school district..have found peace there...

Are you financially able to find something else??
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Old May 12, 2013, 07:38 AM
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Wow, just thinking about my workplace right now...I start to get indigestion bad. I feel my BP go up too. Thank goodness I am on a leave of absence.

My co-worker is insufferable. He does anything and everything he can for his gain only. He with holds information from me, so that he can present it himself. He lies, he manipulates people, he acts like he is above the law, untouchable. He tries to control everything I do.

Oh, I was the lead in the office and was there years before him. I am a GS 7 and he is a GS 5 or was.

He sucked up to one of our bosses so badly, everyone saw it, even the boss, who had confided in me on several occasions that he gets to be too much even for him, but never ever did anything about it....but he sucked up so badly that he was able to have an audit done on his job and is now the same pay grade as me.

But he doesn't do anywhere near what I do and refuses to learn it (they said that we need to know each others job now, which I know his, but he doesn't know mine).

I went to my supervisor(s) time and time again about problems I was having with him and all they would say is we will talk to him. It never changed.

It got so bad that we were even sent to a mediation, which upset me so much because I was the one willing to try to work things out and he was the one refusing. They saw this...but I went anyways.

After a while I was starting to get labeled as a "******" by him and others at work. If only they and he knew that everyday going there was a struggle for me, having to deal with him...I was withdrawing...I kept my distance...because every time I got around him I just wanted to slug him...I was crying so much because no matter what I said to my supervisors, no one was helping.

He then would hear about it and not speak to me for days, which in a way was a relief, but then it wasn't, because the tension it caused me and ....ughhh....some days I felt so sick.

I actually was sent to the ER one day because of chest pain etc., found out it was stress related...and then I was diagnosed back in Oct now with Hypertension.

I used to love my job...but after a couple years and then him coming in there...I absolutely loathe it.

I am stuck, as a fed worker because of hiring freezes, etc.

I have already told my T that I refuse to go back.

I am currently with the VA for other related issues, PTSD, etc., and they are working with me to get some service connected disability pay increased.

My doctor said she wants me to quit there even.

My mom, who was around him one time for a Thanksgiving pot luck we had last year there, was only around him for like 30 mins and was already seeing what I was going through and wanted to slap him.

She makes her own judgements, I talked at times with her about it, but not too much because I wanted to enjoy my time with her and not think or talk about that miserable place.

Right now I am not being paid, ok, well just a little, like 80.00 last payday and a whole whopping 10.00 this payday. I did however get the FMLA paperwork done to get on the leave share program. This will help out until my other stuff will kick in, which I hope doesn't take forever.

It's just so frustrating because no matter who I went to, my supervisors, union rep, etc., he always had a way of turning things around on me.

Last year , we had a boss for about 8 months, OMG ...I felt like I was back in my home, with my abusive dad, it was bad. This guy was so unpredictable in his moods, mainly anger and there was always yelling and screaming there with the 2nd guy in charge. They had it in for each other. I got even more depressed and had to go back to my docotr for help, she increased my meds. He was eventually removed because the entire dept was suffering and he LIED on his app. UGHHHHH...gonna have nightmares again tonight...hah...

Needless to say, I am NOT going back...I can't...my health has declined way too much and I feel like I am dying...because I hurt so much on the inside.

Sorry for going on and on....

I gotta go, cause this is so painful right now.

Just that I wanted to say, yes....you are not alone.

I may end up living out of my car....but at least I won't be around them anymore.

Lotsa (((HUGS)))

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Old May 13, 2013, 05:49 PM
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I am new here and this is my first post. I've been in the same job for over ten years and have seen many changes in staff and mangement. I really liked my job and my dept. at the beginning but the last 5 years or so have been filled with disappointment, frustration and apathy. Others in my dept. who feel the same about things have either retired early or transferred to a new dept. I only have about 6 or 7 years to go until retirement, and don't feel like starting over in a new dept. however, I am finding my management team very difficult to work under. I've tried talking to my Supervisor, but get no where. It's getting more and more frustrating to face these people daily. Anyone else here have this sort of experience?

Sometimes, it makes me paranoid when a person has to document behaviours of co-workers who create a toxic workplace. When the business policy allows toxic producers to flourish and does not have policies that protect the health and rights of affected workers, then one feels the management who allows such a situation to be exposed to the light of justice. Because it shows a lack of compassion towards humanity
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Old May 13, 2013, 08:49 PM
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I don't get the workplace at all. There's a hierarchy everywhere you go. The ones with the most seniority get unconditional respect and the ones at the bottom are allowed to be kicked around in any shape or form. Someone owns you for 40 hrs/wk.

I worked for a very unique group for USAF (DOD) and everyone was possessive about the knowledge they had and there was virtually no sharing of common knowledge. Engineers did not share standards, etc.

And all mgmt. (and others) were oblivious to abberations/anomalies in workers' moods, functioning, etc. If you were having problems you were given bad looks, bad attitude and you were unconsciously/implicitly supposed to get the "message" to shape up in a hurry. I got pounded by lots of people and personally attacked by supervisors, so called "friends". People would say unconscionable things right to your face. I was attacked during performance reviews. I couldn't believe the attacks and I was like "give me my review, let me sign it and get the hell out of here!". I couldn't take it, quit, filed bankruptcy and now on SSDI.

They always talked about "teamwork" where I worked in USAF but it was really non-existent. It was really "you hold your end up, I'll hold mine up".
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Old May 14, 2013, 09:11 AM
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Gosh...and I thought I was the only one .

Seriously.

No way I would buddy up with any of them either. I can't do that to others...it's wrong.

I like to have fun and chit chat and help out, etc. It's what I used to do.

They took such advantage of me and literally pushed me into the abyss that I am in now. Oh I stood up when I could, I fought back as much as I could...but because I did that...my evals went down, I was reprimanded (on paper) relentlessly, I was mobbed at times by a handful of them...they had already run one person out when I first got there, she was in absolute tears, for 2 weeks before she left...when she was there...even her husband had showed up at one point, another fed worker, different department, because she was in so much distress from them, she too had gone for help, the EEO, HR and the union.

They have this clique, and would work together to do things to others. It was supervisors doing this, they still do it too.

I should have seen it...I should have said, uhmmm, maybe I better NOT work here. But I needed the job at that time....and I wasn't for sure what was happening...I found it out a cpl years later.

When they started on me I immediately went for help...bringing up what happened to her...it was the EXACT same thing...and no one helped.

I tried to be tough and just HANG in there...it finally has taken it's toll on me though.

For someone to intentionally undermine an individual for their own benefit and no one helps, no matter what I did, how much I documented, how many times I went above my supervisors...he would manipulate them so much that I was the BAD one...

HUGS to all that go through this hell and KUDOS to all that say you know....ENOUGH and leave!!!!

Stay safe!
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Old May 14, 2013, 07:55 PM
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Hi Thwarted,
I support you!
and I have been there too.
Had a couple of supervisors in my
working life that were just unbearable
as well as the insufferable coworkers
I wish I knew what to say to help.
I don't know why some folks in the work
place don't just work together instead of making
life so difficult.
Perhaps you could find a counselor that could help
with this sort of situation ...work related issues to
help you get through your last 6 years of the job so you
can retire.
I'm sure there are some counselors out there that help
deal with work related issues & problems.
I hope this helps.
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Old May 23, 2013, 07:18 PM
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I'm going through something similar in my life right now. Retaliation for speaking up makes for one hostile work environment indeed. My boss treats us like her kids, plays favorites, and makes the other miserable when they "disappoint" Mama. And when she has to work, get's all nasty and takes it out on the non-favorite. So sorry you have to go through it, It's so completely frustrating to know you do a good job, but still have to go through needless BS and stress.
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Old May 24, 2013, 07:13 AM
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I am at my wits end with my workplace. My dreams are increasing...nightmares really.

Every time I look at my calendar knowing I am scheduled to go back on 8 June, but still have a couple appts before that and keeping my fingers crossed that they extend that for me. I am sure they will, but for now it's not helping me.

Emotionally I am not ready for that place. Just remembering everything they have done to me for years, makes me angry too and I know that if I go there and 1 little thing is done or said, I will explode.

With my hypertension, it will probably be my heart.

I am trying to get a note done explaining how work is exacerbating my PTSD and Agoraphobia, etc., it's just taking forever.

I actually do not plan on going back, worse case scenario....I resign and request I get anything due me to include withdrawing my TSP. I just don't care anymore. My health comes first now. I can find something simple, hopefully part time to add to my VA disability until the re-evaluation of that comes through and hopefully increases it.

It seems like I can't heal until I am away from there. I feel trapped and hopeless.

I too have tried so many times to get help and was shut down. I remember going to my union rep so many times, and all he said was, have you ever thought about maybe looking for another job? WTH??????????????? I come to you for help, as this crap needs to stop and you just say..in a nut shell....sorry, maybe another job...?

One time I talked to my supervisor about that insufferable co-worker I deal with day in and day out and he said " quit picking on him, he's been doing really good lately". I was shocked....THEY see what he does when he does things openly and what they don't see is what I am suffering through on my own and try to tell them this and they stick up for him.

I feel like they are doing all of this on purpose...anyhow...to get me out of there. I tried for so long to stand up to them and fight. It's all gone now...I give up and am sick of it all.

1 time, another boss of mine...had some high mucky mucky's show up and went around introducing them to people, etc., I got introduced as mom and my co-worker, the other assistant...got introduced as his right hand man.

I was floored. You can bet tho, afterwards I confronted him on it, he laughed it off saying, well your like a mom to us...I told him, IN HOUSE maybe, but NOT to people I do not know. I didn't even touch on the other comment as I was fuming.

My co-worker is a HUGE but kisser btw. Spelled that with 1 "B" on purpose lol

Anyhow...sorry to ramble on...I better stop as it is making me angry.

(((HUGS))) all
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