[CMyX]

I feel lost despite of having 5-6 years of working experience. I have been finding excuses and have been changing job ever now and then. The longest period I ever stayed in a company was 1year and 3 months. As I aged, I was searching for stability and career advancement.
But I seems lost... Even if I got the job I wanted, I never feel satisfied.. Be it whether the work environment, benefits or even colleagues... In the end, I am lost of what I am looking for. And I am not sure of the type of industry and job suits me best..
I don't what should I do.. I don't wanna keep hopping around like a lost soul.. Anyone who share the same issue as me?

[MoxieDoxie]

I am 47..... Still cant figure out what to do with my life. Everytime i go to college for something i always drop out.

[StrongerMan]

I've always been lost. A lost child and now a lost child in adult skin. Then I fell in a hole that I can't get out of and can't seem to even get help to get out of. Happiness is just out of reach but might as well be light years away.

[CMyX]

Originally Posted by StrongerMan

I've always been lost. A lost child and now a lost child in adult skin. Then I fell in a hole that I can't get out of and can't seem to even get help to get out of. Happiness is just out of reach but might as well be light years away.

I am so sorry for ur lost.. Did u ever try seeing any counsellor to talk abt ur issue? Or have u tried using any ways to improve ur current situation?

[CMyX]

Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie

I am 47..... Still cant figure out what to do with my life. Everytime i go to college for something i always drop out.

Ya.. Have tried any ways to help yourself understand what u looking for?

[StrongerMan]

Thanks CMyX,

Yes, have done counseling. I'm just really stuck with insecurity, indecision and low self confidence now. Started an anti-depressant to give me a boost in motivation but that has just left me depressed and more stuck while trying to dial things in. I know if I could get back out working I'd break out of it, but I just can't find the courage to allow myself to be vulnerable. I just feel very hopeless right now.

[CMyX]

StrongerMan

I may be wrong but for what I understand.. Anti-depressant only helps for a short run..

Actually I think We share similar issue. But perhaps mine is not that bad. At times I feel insecure, have low self esteem and feeling negative about myself.. And I guess now I am facing social anxiety issue too.. Sometimes I feel myself withdrawn and lost.. But I realized, once in awhile I do feel good when I am with the my family and right group of people. Family's help is like a daily vitamin that helps to boost up ur immunity system (that's what I feel).

Recently I feel good when I do things that I like and I am good with.. It makes me feel good.. I tried one way (it may or may not work but worth a try).. I try talking to the mirror, trying to practice to speak confidently.. At first it seems to a little uncomfortable but.. After awhile it seems ok.. I guess I just have to get use to it.

Personally I guess u need to first be comfortable facing yourself before u can have confident in facing others. Perhaps u can also try doing something u like or something u r good at.

Currently I started doing a mood chart.. To monitor my emotions and mood.. For instance, When do I feel happy, sad, emotional, angry, depressed, anxiety, disappointment, negative and etc.. By doing so it will help me identify when and in what circumstances will this mood or thoughts occurs..

I don't know if these are useful for u or u have already done it before.. Truly I believe.. definitely there are some remedies worth trying.
All u have to do is keep trying..
U never try.. U never know..

[vans1974]

Originally Posted by CMyX

I feel lost despite of having 5-6 years of working experience. I have been finding excuses and have been changing job ever now and then. The longest period I ever stayed in a company was 1year and 3 months. As I aged, I was searching for stability and career advancement.
But I seems lost... Even if I got the job I wanted, I never feel satisfied.. Be it whether the work environment, benefits or even colleagues... In the end, I am lost of what I am looking for. And I am not sure of the type of industry and job suits me best..
I don't what should I do.. I don't wanna keep hopping around like a lost soul.. Anyone who share the same issue as me?

Sorry to hear! This is how I feel when I'm depressed! I know you said ADs only work for a short period, that's how it is for me as well! I find, I just have to keep tweaking my med cocktail, but when it's working, I find fulfillment in life instead of always thinking the grass is greener on the other side! All the best!

[StrongerMan]

CMyX,

Thanks, I've tried a bunch of stuff in the past. Even hypnosis. Of course, we all want the quick fix and my problems require small steps that build on each other. I can definitely see a mood chart as a great tool to better understand what our triggers are. Yes, the meds are pretty much a crutch to get me out of a rut. Well, I was in a rut, but now I am sort of off the road in a ditch, lol.

Long story short, I hurt my back at work, eventually lost the job which wasn't entirely a bad thing as I hated it. I felt trapped there and was finally free to do something that made me happier. But I had another health issue last year. My self esteem and confidence only got worse the longer I was out of work to the point where now I feel like damaged goods. I do feel I have a lot to offer, but just can't seem to find a way to do all that is needed these days to get my foot in the door. And I don't feel very good about myself right now... the very product that I have to sell in the job market.

People (family included) tell me to "get over it" but that just makes things worse. I'm an introvert so I tend to retreat and isolate when I'm having problems and I've only pushed people away in the process. But, of course, I'll never get back on the road without the help of others. The big problem is I haven't figured out where I want to go specifically and I desperately want to avoid just ending up in another rut. So here I am... lost.

Originally Posted by CMyX

StrongerMan

I may be wrong but for what I understand.. Anti-depressant only helps for a short run..

Actually I think We share similar issue. But perhaps mine is not that bad. At times I feel insecure, have low self esteem and feeling negative about myself.. And I guess now I am facing social anxiety issue too.. Sometimes I feel myself withdrawn and lost.. But I realized, once in awhile I do feel good when I am with the my family and right group of people. Family's help is like a daily vitamin that helps to boost up ur immunity system (that's what I feel).

Recently I feel good when I do things that I like and I am good with.. It makes me feel good.. I tried one way (it may or may not work but worth a try).. I try talking to the mirror, trying to practice to speak confidently.. At first it seems to a little uncomfortable but.. After awhile it seems ok.. I guess I just have to get use to it.

Personally I guess u need to first be comfortable facing yourself before u can have confident in facing others. Perhaps u can also try doing something u like or something u r good at.

Currently I started doing a mood chart.. To monitor my emotions and mood.. For instance, When do I feel happy, sad, emotional, angry, depressed, anxiety, disappointment, negative and etc.. By doing so it will help me identify when and in what circumstances will this mood or thoughts occurs..

I don't know if these are useful for u or u have already done it before.. Truly I believe.. definitely there are some remedies worth trying.
All u have to do is keep trying..
U never try.. U never know..