[sunsky]

recently I found a job where I was told to go only after two weeks. The owner runs her own company and I think has little exp in hiring. If I were her, I wouldnt hire myself but I said yes because I thought I would learn as I go along. She needed someone more experienced and I think she should have gone through a recruitment agency. She told me that I dont suit smaller companies and would to a large one instead as I have worked in larger companies only – This is what she doubted during the interview process but I managed to convince her that I started out in smaller companies.
For this job I had to contact my previous referees and they gave the reference (both are my managers) . and with one of I didnt get along well. I had a slow start there because they were doing system changes after 3 months of joining. There was lots to learn and I think that was one of the reasons they were annoyed because it took me sometime to pick up the new system and the methods- I asked a lot of questions. So What should I tell my referees?

1. is ok to that apparently the business is not doing well and I will have to look for another job sooner or later and since I have only been there a month I might not get a comprehensive reference. I just dont want my referees to think that I got let go....

2. or that I just didnt fit in and I left.

I also suffer from work anxiety...has anybody dealt with that.

[hvert]

I vote for option #2. It's unfortunate, but it sometimes happens that we accept a job and find out that it's not at all what we bargained for.

[Perna]

I do not think you should mention it to your referees until you want a new recommendation for a new job and just say that the previous job did not pan out, was too small and "not sustainable" by you :-) (basically, #1 but says #2 also only without the negative connotations of "didn't fit in").

[BaconTrail]

I wouldn't mention it to your referees either. You will probably find a better opportunity you are much happier with and that's what you can tell them later. If you aren't growing in a job then it's probably a good thing to move on.
Work anxiety? I think everyone who has a challenging job suffers from it from time to time. I measure mine in percentages. My previous job was about 90% stress. It was too much and I stayed with it for seven years. My new job is about 10% stress and very manageable. I deal with anxiety by working extra hours when starting a new job and learning as much as possible so that I'm more confident. Going in early seems to help me personally. Those early hours are quiet and I can accomplish more before things get busy.