[HockingPastryChef]

Ok, so I had an issue with getting vacation time with my family due to me working at a university in the kitchen and my families schedules.

About a month ago I had turned in a paper about having a week off in September but I found out it was red zone due to there being so many college students during that time. So I had to figure out when to ask for vacation off. I had asked around about when it is rather busy because during the summer it's best for us to ask off(no students). My family on the other hand has trouble getting vacation time in the summer.

So yesterday I turned in a paper asking for the end of October off because one of the managers had told me just to turn it in even though at the beginning of the month it is crazy. The other scheduling manager keeps telling that they normally don't allow time off during students class time.

So it is a question mark if I will get that off. I keep forgetting to tell her this would be the only time I would ask for vacation time during the fall with my family. It's a rare occasion that most of my family goes, and plus it's Florida with these to friends that we hardly ever see. I have not seen them for about 4 years now. I feel like I need to tell her later about that so she knows that I mean it. Though I don't want to come off forceful I just want to spend time with my family and friends.

[kaliope]

you dont have to be forceful, just be assertive. i really need this time off because it is the only time i was able to scheudle with my family together and were planning a trip to florida to see friends we havent seen for a whille. i would really appreciate it if you could consider seeing that i get this time off. good luck and take care.

[HockingPastryChef]

What I meant was needy instead of forceful. ha

[HockingPastryChef]

Originally Posted by kaliope

you dont have to be forceful, just be assertive. i really need this time off because it is the only time i was able to scheudle with my family together and were planning a trip to florida to see friends we havent seen for a whille. i would really appreciate it if you could consider seeing that i get this time off. good luck and take care.

I was assertive and told her that I forgot to tell her what I had told you and she ended up getting upset instead and said stop listen to who ever is spending the money because now it will most likely not work out so stop thinking that it will. This was after she had told me that we will have to get the team together to see if this will work.

I ended up saying ok and walked away though. It was stupid.

I should I told her I was asking time off to be with my friends and family which is a rare occasion.

Too late now... :\ I feel hurt instead. This vacation hardly ever happens.

[hvert]

That stinks that you won't get your vacation. I'm glad she was honest with you, though.

I don't think anything you said would have made a difference. In a lot of jobs, you can only take a vacation during the slow season. A university is seasonal in a sense, and it's all hands on deck during the school year. Could your family and friends meet in Florida a little later, during Thanksgiving break or winter break?

[HockingPastryChef]

Originally Posted by hvert

That stinks that you won't get your vacation. I'm glad she was honest with you, though.

I don't think anything you said would have made a difference. In a lot of jobs, you can only take a vacation during the slow season. A university is seasonal in a sense, and it's all hands on deck during the school year. Could your family and friends meet in Florida a little later, during Thanksgiving break or winter break?

I didn't take it as honest though, because she had said one thing and then said another thing. Which I had said she told me we will need to speak to the team and then comes back upset saying "If you are talking to someone who is spending the money I want you to stop. Stop asking others who are spending the money."

I'm wanting to figure out a time to take vacation off when my whole family can go (including me). She seems to get upset when I ask and would talk over me.

So I am planning on asking another manager who I feel will be calmer and who will listen.

[hvert]

What does "stop asking others who are spending the money" mean? Is she talking about other managers or your family? I don't even get that.

I hope you can find a time to get together with your family that coincides with the time you can take off from work!

[HockingPastryChef]

Originally Posted by hvert

What does "stop asking others who are spending the money" mean? Is she talking about other managers or your family? I don't even get that.

I hope you can find a time to get together with your family that coincides with the time you can take off from work!

Yes, I was confused with that too. At the time when she had said that I just wanted to get my work done because she said it in the middle of when I was talking to another manager. It was my fault for not speaking up, though I wasn't exactly there on that day to think about that.

So I choose to not speak to her anymore on things that are important to me instead. Though next time she interrupts me I know that I will choose to tell her my thoughts now that my conscious is here. ha