[imjustsolittle]

I am SO paranoid lately with the new-ish job and all I want to do is leave quit or find something new because I cant deal with being around so many people especially the SAME ones day after day. I guess its anxiety. I feel trapped and under watch by all the other people. A cubicle and these 3 ladies around me have whisper matches with their back turned about a foot away. They speak through their cubicles at normal levels but when near me it is WHISPER. The ladies thought it was a secret but I already figured out that their 4th had quit. Once I was entering the washroom and they went a gasp that it was me, a hush and I went in to pee. No one cares. It is rude, I find it insulting. These two ladies kind of made it obvious that one had been bad mouthing me to the other and vice versa when I wasnt around. SO Since I cant prove it … I called her fake on a note and showed her. SO apparently she reported this as a threat and had her best friend come on in as a witness to "Things muttered under imjustsolittles breath" And told the boss in writing. They then bring up one time in July that I raised my voice to someone else FOR A MOMENT and began saying I have targets and move from one to the other… as one lady left the position. I have no idea how this all looks to them. I kept saying if she thinks its a threat than doesnt that mean what I said was true by indicating shes scared? Why not reply to me? She wouldnt even after they said to approach her and she just ignored me. Apparently its me whom did not leave 'personal' things at the door. I insist I had nothing against that girl until I went in a bathroom and their behaviour defined them. I dont see the point of trying to please all of these people. Even the boss. Didnt this lady make her bed and if I say lay in it shes all uncomfortable. I'm uncomfortable with all the whispering. The boss told me to deal since he prefers it… insists its a part of every workplace. I insist this is situational and I thought the July moment was resolved and no voices were raised etc nothing the same BUT THEY SEEM TO CONNECT and think I have people in my sights. I dont want to o back. I dont want to go to a new place. I dont want to deal with people anymore. Shortly after the moment with the bathroom, I began going over my passed jobs and why I never got that way. I was not around people. That was the common element but they dont pay. I dont believe I can change. I dont like how people operate and be fake nice to people even on the day they are on their way out. I do not have 8 faces or enough time for keeping track of lies. The quitter lied, the thing from July was over lies and catching both ladies in the bathroom means its all lies. Its all lies. Why are people all lies…… I dont understand adult life. I'm 2 years shy of 30. IT WONT GET BETTER. PEOPLE ARE LIKE THIS EVERYWHERE AND I FIND THIS KIND OF SOCIALIZING EXHAUSTING.

[hvert]

That sounds horrible

[CosmicRose]

Bad idea to write anything on a post it or note because that is called workplace evidence LOL. Anyways...don't confront anyone. If anyone ever makes your work harder to deal with because they are saying rude comments or any other childish behavior, that's meant for either the boss or the HR department. Those ladies are unprofessional and acting like they're still in high school. Not every place is like this. You just have to find a work environment that is actually civil. Always mind your own business, meaning don't give anyone any reason to start hating on you, and just keep to yourself, get your work done, be quiet, be formal or friendly when need be, and go home. That's all that's expected of you. You dont have to put up with any catty behavior, and if it ever happens, report it to the people who can actually do something about it but never confront the people doing it because it just creates more drama. It also helps to just not give a f***.

[bea1990]

Im sorry to say this but you shouldnt have written "fake" on a piece of paper and gave it to your co-worker. That sounds like strange behavior to me- just as their whispering sounds like immature, childish behavior. I know this CRAP is hard to deal with, believe me.
I worked as a promotional liquor model (someone who promotes different brands of beer/liquor) and the women I worked with were usually b*tches who looked down on other people. I was the 'new girl' while the other girls were practically best friends. I could feel them tearing me down with their eyes the first day I started. I felt really uncomfortable and awkward just KNOWING that I wasnt liked. I tried being friendly but was rejected in a very passive aggressive manor. It made me feel like ***** because I thought I finally found a job that I could do that wasnt going to make me miserable. I eventually had to just quit and find something else with a better fitting environment for me.
If this job of yours is stressing you out that much, you need to find something else. There is ALWAYS something else you can do. I prefer to be alone while I work, as do you. Something that worked for me was a 'work from home' job that I found a couple months ago. Its a customer service position at a call center. I had to work IN the office for six weeks and then I was able to log into my laptop from home and take calls from my house. Its working out really well for me since I have bad social anxiety. Try seeking a job like that and let us know if it works for you!

Until then, just stay positive! Your not alone!

[IceCreamKid]

I hope this helps. Do you receive counseling? If you can afford it you might find it very helpful. It helped me to have my counselor listen and then provide ideas on how I could cope with what sounds like an environment very similar to yours.

There are some very disturbed people in business, and it is understandable, really; they have to support themselves, so they end up working at whatever places put up with their bad behavior.

I work with some very mean people. They also whisper, conspire, lie and do things (it would appear) just to upset others. I've been insulted to my face over and over, and literally right behind my back over and over.

I have decided it is better if I leave this place as soon as I can get another job. And I have tried as much as possible to stay out of these mean people's line of sight and drama-stirring. If they are going to whisper, it might be safest for you to ignore it. And don't hand any more notes to anyone.

[jan16th]

Originally Posted by imjustsolittle

I am SO paranoid lately with the new-ish job and all I want to do is leave quit or find something new because I cant deal with being around so many people especially the SAME ones day after day. I guess its anxiety. I feel trapped and under watch by all the other people. A cubicle and these 3 ladies around me have whisper matches with their back turned about a foot away. They speak through their cubicles at normal levels but when near me it is WHISPER. The ladies thought it was a secret but I already figured out that their 4th had quit. Once I was entering the washroom and they went a gasp that it was me, a hush and I went in to pee. No one cares. It is rude, I find it insulting. These two ladies kind of made it obvious that one had been bad mouthing me to the other and vice versa when I wasnt around. SO Since I cant prove it … I called her fake on a note and showed her. SO apparently she reported this as a threat and had her best friend come on in as a witness to "Things muttered under imjustsolittles breath" And told the boss in writing. They then bring up one time in July that I raised my voice to someone else FOR A MOMENT and began saying I have targets and move from one to the other… as one lady left the position. I have no idea how this all looks to them. I kept saying if she thinks its a threat than doesnt that mean what I said was true by indicating shes scared? Why not reply to me? She wouldnt even after they said to approach her and she just ignored me. Apparently its me whom did not leave 'personal' things at the door. I insist I had nothing against that girl until I went in a bathroom and their behaviour defined them. I dont see the point of trying to please all of these people. Even the boss. Didnt this lady make her bed and if I say lay in it shes all uncomfortable. I'm uncomfortable with all the whispering. The boss told me to deal since he prefers it… insists its a part of every workplace. I insist this is situational and I thought the July moment was resolved and no voices were raised etc nothing the same BUT THEY SEEM TO CONNECT and think I have people in my sights. I dont want to o back. I dont want to go to a new place. I dont want to deal with people anymore. Shortly after the moment with the bathroom, I began going over my passed jobs and why I never got that way. I was not around people. That was the common element but they dont pay. I dont believe I can change. I dont like how people operate and be fake nice to people even on the day they are on their way out. I do not have 8 faces or enough time for keeping track of lies. The quitter lied, the thing from July was over lies and catching both ladies in the bathroom means its all lies. Its all lies. Why are people all lies…… I dont understand adult life. I'm 2 years shy of 30. IT WONT GET BETTER. PEOPLE ARE LIKE THIS EVERYWHERE AND I FIND THIS KIND OF SOCIALIZING EXHAUSTING.

It's a wonder any actual work gets done other there. Anyway, I would just stick to the work at hand and do a super job. Ignore the stupid. Keep your sights out for another job at all times. Good Luck.