[Mrs. Mania]

I've been crying since I got off work. I hate my coworkers, I hate having to work short ALL the time. + my favorite patient is dying. I 've called in a lot already this month, but the thought of going in there tonight is unbearable.

[lowinmood]

I began to hate my job in september, a co-worker was becoming more and more hostile with me, and it made me obsses about work in the evenings, think about work all weekend, not sleep at night as I was crying about this one co-worker and dreading how she'd be with me the following day, and would go over and over in my mind what she said to me and how she said it, and try to work out why she was being this mean to me.

Anyway, I did the adult professional thing, and carried on with my work and pretended it wasn't affecting me, but in early november I couldn't keep that up, and started to show some signs of my anxiety at work, and now I'm on sick leave, and they asked me to resign.

So my lesson learnt is: take time off work when it's gets too much, or you could almost lose everything like I have just done. Our health is number one priority. And the other lesson was to look for other jobs when things start to get too much at work.

[BlueCrustacean]

Originally Posted by lowinmood

I began to hate my job in september, a co-worker was becoming more and more hostile with me, and it made me obsses about work in the evenings, think about work all weekend, not sleep at night as I was crying about this one co-worker and dreading how she'd be with me the following day, and would go over and over in my mind what she said to me and how she said it, and try to work out why she was being this mean to me.

Anyway, I did the adult professional thing, and carried on with my work and pretended it wasn't affecting me, but in early november I couldn't keep that up, and started to show some signs of my anxiety at work, and now I'm on sick leave, and they asked me to resign.

So my lesson learnt is: take time off work when it's gets too much, or you could almost lose everything like I have just done. Our health is number one priority. And the other lesson was to look for other jobs when things start to get too much at work.

Why didn't you ever tell your manager about your co-worker?

[lowinmood]

I would have done, but I soon realised my manager and this co-worker are thick as thieves, very gossipy with each other, I'd come into work, and they would stop talking, so I felt that they were talking negatively about me - my manager acted worse around me when that co-worker was around, and nicer when she wasn't

I feel that this co-worker had more power than my manager, I felt sometimes, that my manager wanted my co-worker's approval, not the other way round

[BlueCrustacean]

Sounds like it's a good thing you're not working there anymore. Office politics are a waste of time, and you deserve to work at a job you enjoy where people are at least nice to you.

[Mrs. Mania]

I make an old lady smile. M-F, my "good morning", smile and finger holding (her hands are contracted) make her entire day. She's overlooked because she's hard to understand. Everyone calls her the pirate because most words sound like "arghhh". This morning, before I said anything, she smiled a huge gummy grin and grumbled " gaarrgghhh moanin". This is why I love my job!

[Calypso2632]

As a former cna thank you for this last post and thank you for what you do! I miss the elderly something terrible but can no longer handle the work. Props to you for sticking it out!

[AutumnEmbers]

Originally Posted by lowinmood

I began to hate my job in september, a co-worker was becoming more and more hostile with me, and it made me obsses about work in the evenings, think about work all weekend, not sleep at night as I was crying about this one co-worker and dreading how she'd be with me the following day, and would go over and over in my mind what she said to me and how she said it, and try to work out why she was being this mean to me.

Anyway, I did the adult professional thing, and carried on with my work and pretended it wasn't affecting me, but in early november I couldn't keep that up, and started to show some signs of my anxiety at work, and now I'm on sick leave, and they asked me to resign.

So my lesson learnt is: take time off work when it's gets too much, or you could almost lose everything like I have just done. Our health is number one priority. And the other lesson was to look for other jobs when things start to get too much at work.

I get bullied by those above and below me periodically. It's awful sometimes, but not a dynamic that I trust going to a superior with, but financially I'm sort of stuck where I'm at for the moment. Definitely can relate to this. I tend to just document the issues and keep to myself should there be an issue down the road, but it regularly follows me home and lately has lead to panic attacks at work, and at home. If things are particularly bad, it could be worth checking up with HR to discuss or see what your options are if you're comfortable doing so.

What I try to do is keep a few positive mental notes (things you enjoy or that made you feel good) about your work (particular patients/clients, "good days/moments") to think about when things get rough.

I do agree with the above though: you're health is important, too. Take care of yourself.

I hope things look better for you soon!

[lowinmood]

I'm still off on sick leave, but noticed today how not as stressed I was, realise I have been stressed since they day I started that job - and this co-worker then added to that, I realise now that I'm better off out of that job, I just wish I looked for work earlier, instead of waiting until now.

I'm not hopeful I will get a new job anytime soon though, but there is a few volunteering opportunities available for me so I'm going to pursue them.

[ArtemisSoifa]

When I had a job I know how it feels...

I'm not sure what to tell you