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May 30, 2016, 11:38 PM
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So without going into too much detail...
I thought I had the authority to make a decision at work and I made a call, and instructed a co-worker to go through with something. She did and got in trouble for it, and the whole time I'm trying to tell everyone to lay off of her, that I made the call, she just did the work and if anyone is angry with anyone it should be directed at me. But they just want to give me a pass because I'm new and she should've known better. I don't know if I buy that. So I feel really terrible because she feels really terrible, and I feel responsible that she is basically in trouble when she was just doing as I directed. The other thing is that no one is listening to our side of the story and why I made the call that I made and why she did what she did... they're all just going off of another co-worker's lies (basically), and no one has asked either of us what happened that we decided to do what we did. THey just sent out an email reprimanding us based on what this other co-worker said, which is BS. I was so frustrated with this I started having PTSD symptoms at work again and I might need my service dog at work with me this week if I'm going to be dealing with this BS and underhanded crap like this. Sorry it's so vague but the details are really unimportant. Seesaw
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May 30, 2016, 11:55 PM
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Sorry you're going through such a tough time together with your coworker. It really sucks that they've publicly reprimanded you and her just based on what a third-party said. Especially unfair that no one was interested in hearing your and her side, and truly obtaining an objective view of what happened.
It sounds so very stressful. You made an honest mistake and you are doing what a good boss does - owned up and trying to shield your coworker who was following your directions. You make very kind and good posts here, I hope other more active posters in this forum will be able to encourage you. 
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May 31, 2016, 12:07 AM
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Thanks, QuietMind. It's just a bad situation all around. Part of the problem is that we don't have a department head right now, just a campaign consultant who is sort of also running our department but is only in the office two days a week. And she doesn't have a really good idea of what's going on in the office or who is really being a team player or not.
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May 31, 2016, 06:42 AM
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That is a frustrating situation.
I usually respond to emails like that and explain the truth of the situation. If they don't believe you, then you have no control over it. You did your best. Sometimes people want to place blame which doesn't help anyone. Hopefully, it will be forgotten and you can get back to work as usual. |
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May 31, 2016, 06:51 AM
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Sorry that they will not even bother to listen to your side of the complicated situation. The best thing you could personally do to make that coworker feel better would be to buy her a coffee or perhaps a lunch out. Something that shows you do take full responsibility outside of outright saying it was your fault in the first place.
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