[TishaBuv]

I had a sale go bad because some people are being idiots. I tried to talk sense to them so they could realize they should not be complaining like they are, and that I did something very good for them. So, basically, right now they hate me. I had to bring my boss into it. It's out of my hands now.

For someone diagnosed with EDD, I am extremely chill and professional. With all my retail experience, I know they are just being babies, and I hope they come to their senses and change their tune.

They just want someone to kick, and I'm the punching bag. I don't even care. That's part of the job. I'm not bothered.

Goody for me. I made the sale and will get paid, if completed.

Now, someone with EDD... would they be much more upset and emotional over this kind of stress?

How am I so good at handling this stuff, and the only time I am so hysterical, I get diagnosed Borderline is over the struggle with my husband???

This is such a stressful job, I could get personally sued. But, I didn't do anything wrong and didn't cause any damage. So, I'm calm.

Do I sound like a person with EDD? I am wary of the EDD diagnosis. Does this make sense?

I'm not sure what EDD is but it sounds like you're focusing a lot on the label, which isn't necessarily important. Just focus on yourself and how you can improve, rather than point fingers at others. Remember, when you point your finger at someone, you have 3 pointing back towards you. Just something to consider.

You sound much more relaxed about it than I would every be. Though I was calmer when I was younger but don't even want to worry about why I had a nervous breakdown anymore. Today, I just finished 40 hours of training for a part time job that I applied for simply because it should be low stress. It's good that you have so much confidence. You should--you seem as sharp as they come.

Hmm--did you get the emotionally disordered/ borderline diagnosis while going to marriage therapy (where your H was probably feeling like you were the problem?) plus your mom was playing head games with you at the time. Also, my diagnoses may have been more extreme if I told my psychiatrist and/or therapist every single crazy thought I had. These medical professionals are creating a sort of record/picture of us. After my attempt (resulting in going inpatient) I had a healthy amount of fear about acting in a way that could give anyone the ability to take away my rights. When you go to your therapist/doctors, you should emphasize that you really have things together and are dealing with life calmly.....

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

I'm not sure what EDD is but it sounds like you're focusing a lot on the label, which isn't necessarily important. Just focus on yourself and how you can improve, rather than point fingers at others. Remember, when you point your finger at someone, you have 3 pointing back towards you. Just something to consider.

Who am I pointing fingers at?

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by Hopingtrying

Hmm--did you get the emotionally disordered/ borderline diagnosis while going to marriage therapy (where your H was probably feeling like you were the problem?) plus your mom was playing head games with you at the time. Also, my diagnoses may have been more extreme if I told my psychiatrist and/or therapist every single crazy thought I had. These medical professionals are creating a sort of record/picture of us. After my attempt (resulting in going inpatient) I had a healthy amount of fear about acting in a way that could give anyone the ability to take away my rights. When you go to your therapist/doctors, you should emphasize that you really have things together and are dealing with life calmly.....

The last time I went to the psy, I told her I was keeping it together and dealing calmly, and she said "hmmm, I'm not so sure." Her saying that sure rubbed me the wrong way, and I didn't go back to her.

Yes, it's a really stressful job, and I am handling it well. My boss never even responded, so he's not going to handle anything or get involved at all. Now I have to handle it myself. I'll call my customer/friend later this morning and just let him bitc* at me. Then I'll remind him that it's a done deal, it's out of my hands, and it's a really good deal, so deal with it and quit yer whining!

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

The last time I went to the psy, I told her I was keeping it together and dealing calmly, and she said "hmmm, I'm not so sure." Her saying that sure rubbed me the wrong way, and I didn't go back to her.

Yes, it's a really stressful job, and I am handling it well. My boss never even responded, so he's not going to handle anything or get involved at all. Now I have to handle it myself. I'll call my customer/friend later this morning and just let him bitc* at me. Then I'll remind him that it's a done deal, it's out of my hands, and it's a really good deal, so deal with it and quit yer whining!

These professionals are not all knowing and we spend limited time with them. I am sure that you understand me better than my therapist simply because of the amount of information we have exchanged. It is a red flag that she isn't trusting your own assessment of your situation. Sounds closeminded like she has already made her judgement. And isn't therapy about growth and recovery? She should have celebrated the fact that you were feeling that way. I think many of us who have been diagnosed with MI have endured trauma, stress, or need a lot of rest because we are in situations that have made us tired because we have been on "high alert" or been working overtime for way to long. I have issues but can deal with them without professional help when my life situation is not to sad or overwhelming.....

[TishaBuv]

If mental illness was publicly known, and I got labeled with disorders, I'm sure I would have it thrown in my face and be used against me; like in this case of what just happened. They would say I screwed up because I have a disorder, or they wouldn't even trust me in the first place. But, I did not screw up. My customer said one thing then lied, saying he said something else and putting the blame on me. It was all verbal, I don't have proof. But it doesn't matter. The problem is so minor. Even if they sued me, I did not damage them in any way. I got a deal for them that is what they wanted and accepted and they are freaking out because the two brothers have severe issues with each other. It's a pissing contest!

I think it'll calm down and all will work out.

But, see, I can handle this kind of stress pretty well. I am calm and logical. I have the management skills from my retail experience to handle these customers.

I know how to listen to them rant. Tell them I understand their problems. Then help them find the solution, because I steer this ship to the dock through the roughest of waters, lol.

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

Who am I pointing fingers at?

To start with, the people you mention in your original post that you call "idiots" and "babies". In past threads you often point fingers at your mother, siblings and husband. It's just something I've noticed. I do not know these people or how hard they are to get along with, but just from the outside looking in I see a lot of anger and blame towards others. Even if it is sometimes justified, it's not helpful to do all the time.

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

To start with, the people you mention in your original post that you call "idiots" and "babies". In past threads you often point fingers at your mother, siblings and husband. It's just something I've noticed. I do not know these people or how hard they are to get along with, but just from the outside looking in I see a lot of anger and blame towards others. Even if it is sometimes justified, it's not helpful to do all the time.

I hope I am not out of line because this is not my thread but when my H conducted negotiations (with the help of a realtor) for the purchase of our house, at the end, harsh words were flying. The previous owner had promised some stuff to us and after H got the price down he suddenly forgot about some of his previous promises. My H has a "photographic" memory (especially back then) and would not stand for this forgetfulness. Business negotiations are really stressful and words like idiot fly around in some places all of the time. Can we be more supportive here?

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

To start with, the people you mention in your original post that you call "idiots" and "babies". In past threads you often point fingers at your mother, siblings and husband. It's just something I've noticed. I do not know these people or how hard they are to get along with, but just from the outside looking in I see a lot of anger and blame towards others. Even if it is sometimes justified, it's not helpful to do all the time.

It makes me feel better to vent on here. Where else can I? And, yes, it's justified.

If you can't vent, rant, and get some moral support on PC, where else can you?

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

It makes me feel better to vent on here. Where else can I? And, yes, it's justified.

If you can't vent, rant, and get some moral support on PC, where else can you?

I think PC is a great place with lots of support, and absolutely venting once in a while can help. As long as one doesn't get stuck in that venting mindset, because generally venting won't lead to any solution to the issue. I think it's all about balance. I apologize if I came off as unsupportive and judgemental, if venting helps you then by all means go for it.

[TishaBuv]

I went back and looked at my threads I started to see if I am always pointing fingers at others. I feel self conscious now. . I've just been consistently dealing with conflict with h and mother. It's all about the same few issues. I've been examining myself, them, the whole situation.

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Meanwhile, I stayed cool and found them a logical, easy solution. They just need to listen to reason and quit being unreasonably emotional (ironic huh?).