I am back on the "job hunting " bus. It means I have been dredging up memories of my different work places.
My second job I was only seventeen. In a meeting I got distracted and looked out window and the manager taking it was like "you won't get bullied here" and I was miffed. I had one person be a bi#4h to me at start of high school but I did my fair share of mickey taking and he made me feel guilty. It also put the wheels in my head in motion. I am sure my friend who worked there would have been a little shocked and would say I was more of a bully myself than the victim. Sorry I said you were slow.
I did get some comments of course but that is school I wouldn't expect anything less..But when you get to work in the adult world I assumed people would grow up.....some people never leave the playground

[Agent Misty]

To be honest your post is hard to understand.

I'm sorry these bad memories are coming up

Yes, I am having a hard time understanding your post too, but if I can decipher, try not to dwell on memories of past jobs. Take the learning experience forward with you -- the lessons -- and apply them to future jobs. I wish you all the best of luck in your job search. (((hugs))))

When I was in meeting I don't like having all these people's eyes on me so I sometimes take a rest and I shifted my gaze away from the throng for a little too long. But all the boss had to say was please pay attention. But I WAS listening closely but instead he had to insinuate that I had been bullied at school in front of all my work mates and this wasn't the case. So I got really self conscious. I more than a likely was hungover too and the flip chart was right in front of the window on a sunny day so my eyes needed a break!! I always look away when I need to listen close and people mistake it for ignorance. I am simply shy. I come out of my shell quicker than I used.

[seesaw]

I think you should learn to stand up for yourself a little bit, not in an aggressive way, but if your boss said that to you, you could have just responded saying that the light behind the flip chart was hurting your eyes and you are very much paying attention, and even to go so far as to say your personal life has nothing to do with work and that it's inappropriate to bring it up in the middle of a group meeting.

There's nothing wrong with calling out bosses when they're inappropriate.

Seesaw