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Okay, I have to get this off my chest. I just need to put it out in the universe. I'm open to comments and validation, but this is kind of a rant.

Back at my old job, when the new supervisor started, when she interviewed for the position one of the things I remember her talking about was when she started at another previous job, she restructured immediately and fired someone in a position that reported to her, and later that person thanked her for it because he didn't really like his job and now he's doing something he liked.

And I have a feeling she thinks I should be grateful or thank her for firing me.

Yes, I am doing well now, and happier than ever about my career and where it's going, but it's NO thanks to her. It's in spite of what she's tried to do to me and my career, not because of it.

When she fired me, it put me into a psychological, physical, and financial meltdown that took me 6 months to climb out of. It cut off my access to medical benefits and my access to my psychiatrist and therapist, making my disability even worse. It cut me off from the only people I knew in town, since I worked 60-80 hours a week at that job, moved there for that job, and only knew the people I worked with.

I wasn't miserable at my job. There were issues. I was hopeful they could be dealt with. I looked at many of the issues as systemic to the organization with hopes that I could help, as senior staff, implement change. Certainly there were things I didn't like, and there were many things that I did.

I don't like having to be engaged in a legal action against a former employer. I don't "thank her" for that experience. That I will very likely have to allow them access to all my medical records in discovery once this goes to court...I don't thank them for that either.

I pulled myself out of the pit of despair by the grace of who-knows-what and redirected my career and launched my business thanks to my tenacity and determination.

The saying here that applies is not "losing my job was the best thing that ever happened to me" but "what did not kill me made me stronger."

Losing my job was a terrible thing, what she did to me was a terrible thing. I am surviving and succeeding in spite of that, not because of it.

That whole situation has been one of the worst things in my life. Not THE worst thing, I have plenty of years of abuse and traumatic experiences besides that, but it certainly ranks fairly high up there. I am not going to thank anyone or allow them to think they are owed thanks because they perpetrated one of the worse actions against me ever.

And when I say she tried to destroy me, so I owe her no thanks, I mean she has tried to destroy me. She told me that I was being laid off due to restructuring. She told unemployment that I was "unsuited to the work." That is ********. I know for a fact she and my ex-CEO and other co-workers are bad-mouthing me around town. But fortunately they are being given very little credence and my track record speaks for itself. Also, most people in town know that the CEO is full of shyte.

So yes, what did not destroy me made me stronger. But I owe no thanks to anyone for that.

I'm tired of people who knowingly do something negative towards someone else and saying "you'll thank me for it later." BS. They say that to make themselves feel better about doing something they know is wrong.