[itstheendoftheworld]

I am having difficulty with a colleague who is refusing to cooperate on a project we are working on together. It has got to the point where he will not share information, is lying about what he has told me so far, and is recommending that my documentation should disappear.

I feel like this problem has really crept up on me. I had the illusion we were working together towards a common goal, but when I went to work on my part of the project all hell broke loose. He called me aside to tell me he was in control and I should go away.

I know I need to speak to management, but I am scared to raise it. I feel like he will side step it and I will still be stuck working with him. I feel so sick I don't want to go to work tomorrow.

[healingme4me]

Does any of your collaboration with this coworker involve using e-mail? If so, bcc your immediate supervisor.

As far as speaking to your boss, you never know if perhaps there's already some semblance of knowing there's problems with various employees.

Arming yourself with a copy of your own work is arming yourself with facts, which can usually disarm any sidestepping.

Saboteurs can usually out themselves in a matter of time, because if you're doing your part it's only a matter of time before the weak link shows.

Why would deleting your part be remotely acceptable? I hope there's something in writing for your sake.

I agree that you should consider emailing your supervisor to discuss your concerns about this. That creates a record of the abuse you are experiencing from this coworker. Nobody is watching out for you if you aren’t watching out for you... the work place is an especially difficult place to balance getting along with others but also watching out for yourself. I’ve had an especially hard time with this in the past. What a nightmare these things can be. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

[sarahsweets]

I think you should get in touch with your supervisor and ask them specifically what your part in the project is. Then as you attempt to do it you can refer to your conversation with your supervisor and tell that person "No actually Mrs Boss lady said I should do this and this but thanks" Then when the coworker undermines you again you will already be set up with the supervisor and you can bring it to them.