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Dec 29, 2019, 02:06 AM
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What do I do when I work closely with someone who feels hurt at any boundary and I worry would implode and feel offended at a boundary? And then what do I also do if they are the type of person who won’t ever let you go and won’t ever let you say no to them if you don’t have a boundary?
I’ve tried not speaking much to avoid her lack of boundaries, but I feel like she gets offended at this and it feels like there’s tension... (I am NOT giving her silent treatment, I’m just being a quieter person). I feel very much like the bad person here, just for wanting a boundary. |
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Dec 29, 2019, 03:52 AM
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Do you work with this person?
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Dec 29, 2019, 09:58 AM
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I would, if this was troubling me and I had to be near this person for work/other reasons, find a time to take the person aside and let them know that You have boundaries that need to be respected but that they are not intended to hurt anyone, give specific examples --assure the person that this is not about them personally. People often do not know why someone seems to pull away & they may respond by 'trying harder'...
don't know if this makes sense in your situation.
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