[Blueowl]

Hi everyone,

I'm a professional woman, with a PhD, in a field in which I've earned the highest credentials.

At work, some people, who know I have a PhD, still call me miss. A couple of guys harassed me when no one was around - no witnesses. Nonetheless, I let it be known what these two dudes did to me.

When in meetings I have to speak up because a topic deals with my lane of work, yet I'm dismissed or laughed at.

Today, in an early morning meeting, I was told (in a polite way) by a man what I needed to do without asking for my professional opinion or if I had time to take on the additional workload. The people who work for me (regardless of sex/gender) do not respect my boundaries and I have to remind them - which I do consistently, as when training a dog.

I feel as though this treatment has gotten worse.

Am looking for another job, not desperate, but looking again because the environment is toxic and have plenty of other people who agree who are just waiting a few years before they can retire - and leave the workforce for good.

Any other women experiencing this? Again, I just get the feeling it's gotten worse at work.

[Discombobulated]

It does sound a toxic environment and I’m glad you’re keeping calm and reminding others of your experience and knowledge.

I work in a job rather than career, I’m no where near as qualified as you and I haven’t experienced anything like you describe. So it definitely seems off.

[Tart Cherry Jam]

I have never experienced that in my 20 years in Silicon Valley, luckily. It sounds horrible and I am sorry that it has even gotten worse. I hope you find a new job where you will get the respect you deserve.

[splitimage]

I'm sorry you're experiencing that. It does sound like a toxic workplace. I've been lucky, I haven't experienced what you're describing.

[Blueowl]

I've considered doing something else... and you only live once. Now, the other part is that someone needs to offer me a job! LOL

Thank you for the validation. I cannot really talk about it at work and it's always good to get a reality check.

I had three interviews last week. Keeping my fingers crossed the right door opens up.

[divine1966]

It sounds awful. Laughing at you? How rude.

As about being called miss, did you make it known that you want to be called doctor rather than something else? Some of my colleagues have PhD and made it known that they want to be called Dr. Yet there are some that made it known that they absolutely don’t want to be called that at all. I don’t believe people should just assume to call you Dr because you have PhD. Make sure you introduce yourself as doctor and have it in email signature, sign on the office door etc and correct people, if that’s important to you.

[Blueowl]

Yes, I have done all of that. I've also overhead people talk about me as "the doctor" using a tone of voice that is very demeaning.

Basically, my accomplishments are not valued.

I've been very direct about being called a Dr. if they want to use to titles or call me by my first name.

[DeeeSchmeee68]

Working in a toxic environment is extremely exhausting. I'm surprised it still occurs in this day and age, but it does.
I just left a job recently that was extremely toxic. My co-worker would scream profanities at her boyfriend on the phone. She would talk about "going ghetto on their ***." She would yell at the patients, smoke weed at her desk, and show naked pictures of herself. When I told my manager, she said that's just what it's like working with women.

Have you gone to HR to file a report?

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[Blueowl]

Got a new job. Looking forward to the change. Whew.

[Discombobulated]

Originally Posted by Blueowl

Got a new job. Looking forward to the change. Whew.

Well done!

[Tart Cherry Jam]

Congratulations! Smooth sailing!