[Paintdriver]

I have concerns about my mother. She is very fond of wine and often when I visit her she is drinking wine. Now, I haven't noticed and drunkenness or anything in her gait, speech or behavior that I can definitely attribute to drinking so perhaps things are not as bad as I fear. It's hard to say from checking the trash since she puts the empties in her recycle container, but does not take it out to be collected until it is full which is only once a month and contains other recyclable items and not only empty bottles, but I am concerned.

Should I consider attending Al-Anon meetings? I know that there's there's one every Thursday at a nearby church.

Hello, Paintdriver. Have you talked to your mother about your concerns? I recognize that asking your mother about her drinking may be stressful. Still, it seems like a good place to start.

Seeking help from an organization that supports family and friends of a problem drinker seems to me to be premature when it has not been established alcohol is being abused.

If your mother acknowledges a drinking problem, the situation changes.

[Paintdriver]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

Hello, Paintdriver. Have you talked to your mother about your concerns? I recognize that asking your mother about her drinking may be stressful. Still, it seems like a good place to start.

Seeking help from an organization that supports family and friends of a problem drinker seems to me to be premature when it has not been established alcohol is being abused.

If your mother acknowledges a drinking problem, the situation changes.

I have mentioned it to her a couple of times, she says she's not drinking too much. We have not gotten into a big discussion about it. I'm hesitant to say anything about it to other family members since I can't say for sure there is a problem. And I will admit that I do have anxiety issues of the type that often cause me to make things out to be much worse than what they really are. I am addressing these with a therapist.