I want to go to a NA meeting, but scared..

I'm 4 days clean and I have been wanting to go to a NA meeting, but I"m scared. My social phobia is getting the best of me... My anxiety is through the roof thinking of going.

It is always scarey to walk into our first meeting - but you will feel so good after you do!

Do you have a friend who would go along with you? That might make it a little easier.

Good luck to you!

First off, congrats on your sobriety. No one can take those four days away from you.

I won't sugar-coat it: simply stop dwelling on how awful it will be and go. You can go for as long and as seldom as you like and the only requirement is to simply say your name. If you don't feel better having gone, you never have to go back. But nothing in this world that's worth anything is achieved without a little suffering-and sometimes a lot of suffering. And the little anxiety you have now is a cheapest entry fee you will ever pay for the incalculable benefit of being able to snatch your life back from the jaws of addiction.
I'm sure that having gone, you will find it actually more pleasant than a visit to the dentist. And sometimes there are refreshments, which make it decidedly more pleasant.

good for you. 4 days of sobriety!!!! re your being scared about going to a mtg. everyone that is there had to go thru that same door for the first time too. they all know how you feel and will welcome you for coming. it does get better and you'll make supportive ppl there as i did. keep us posted. we care and understand.

Congrats on 4 days of Clean time. As Gulas said there is no substitute for walking in the door. Big Paraphrase there. The hardest thing I ever did was make my first call to go to an AA meeting. A woman showed up and took me. I did not have to go alone.

Around here NA is the same. If you call someone will come and get you and take you to your first meeting. The phone though can be just as terrifying. I don't know if this is possible for you, but if it is maybe you could try this instead of going alone.

There were refreshments though I could barely hold a cup of coffee. The people were really nice and I was convinced they are were all in on a con. It took me a while to believe they were for real.

I hope you go. You only have to say your name and honestly you don't even have to say that. Listen for what you have in common rather than what is different.

And you never have to go back if you really don't want to.

Good Luck.

Congrats on your sober/clean time!!

When I was contemplating going to my first meeting, I was scared to death too, but I KNEW I had to go!!! I didn't have a clue what it would be like. I had pictured in my mind that it would be a bunch of "street" people -- a bunch of "brown-bottle carrying," trench-coat wearing winos. (AA meeting). But when I got there, I found doctors, professors, ministers, housewives, lawyers, blue-collar workers, --- just regular people like me!! And they welcomed me with open arms!! I didn't need to be afraid at all. They made me feel completely comfortable --- and if I didn't want to talk, I didn't have to.

I felt SO much better after my first meeting, that I couldn't WAIT until the next meeting! In fact, I went to more than 90 meetings in 90 days. They did me SO much good!! I never would have gotten sober if it wasn't for the meetings and the people AT the meetings. That was over 18 years ago, and I haven't had a drink since.

So try not to worry. It's not as bad as you're thinking. In fact, it's a SNAP! God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

Congrats!!

I hope by now, that my post is too late to tell you that NA rocks, and you've already been and know. :P

I have never experienced such unconditional love and acceptance and UNDERSTANDING as I have in the Fellowship.

And hey, a free coffee and a biccie never go astray! :P

You are not alone everyone has felt that way! You know the saying....just do it! That is what I did I didn't really say anything except my name for weeks and everyone was ok with that. I was so self conscious but I kept going back and it worked.