[anthony81]

I seriously cannot cure my addiction to porn. With every new site I find and free video nowadays.. I just cannot take my eyes off it!

How can I cure this?

I feel it may be giving me false expectations of women when I do actually meet them in real life. For example, I find alot of those porn scenes extremely arousing to me but most real girls never seem to want to try them for some reason

[Emptty]

I'm a girl and I have the same issue... along with excessive masturbation and sex - hell, I have a full blown sex addiction that I've been fighting for awhile now. The porn was my hardest habit to break, harder than the sex.. I would get lost on the internet for hours watching all kinds of stuff. I realized how bad porn was when men stopped satifying me like they used to because to me they "weren't good enough, weren't as good as the guys I saw online" and it made me sad that I use and objectify men. Usually society says it's men who objectify women but I'm sure I'm not the only female who can't accept a man as perfect because he doesn't want to hold me down and hurt me, or participate in other degrading forms of sexual contact.

To stop... or well I cut back big time but I'm even proud of that, I started exercising when I thought about watching porn and it did get rid of a lot of the sexual energy. I also opened up to my therapist about my problem and realized that he can help me and that I'm not the only one with this problem.

Get a therapist. It will help. Realize the porn is a problem and don't ever expect a woman to do what you want solely for you, she matters too and should never feel pressured. I've pressured a lot of men and it makes me angry to admit that I was only thinking about my fantasies and desires, not theirs(because I really cared about some of them). Sex should always be mutual. If your addiction is anything like mine it will continue to get worse until you get a good therapist and start learning about yourself.

And try exercising when you get the urge to watch. (When I did it helped me cut back, and I lost 20 pounds!
Sorry if I wrote too much. I've never been in this section of the forum. I feel less weird about my issues reading that others struggle too.

[zmel]

I only first tried out porn when I was close to 40 and got kind of hooked. I have begun to understand its negative effects from a number of things I have read online and am now working towards breaking the dependency.
There is no obvious way to stop this except to develop the mental strength to just say no. In addition it is a good idea to think about it and develop some specific activity that is an alternative to watching porn (got this from another website). The most important thing is that you should enjoy the other activity - and it should not itself be a negative activity (so it can't be taking drugs :-))
It could be exercise, it can be taking a walk, cooking, reading, anything. But it should be something that you enjoy. And as soon as you develop the urge to watch porn, drop what you are doing and do that other activity. If you enjoy it you will eventually forget the porn. Great choices are maybe visiting someplace outside your house (like a park or a gym) or calling a friend, etc. Because that completely removes you from the temptation.
It will take many months, maybe even a year but eventually you will be able to fill your life up with enjoyable things without needing porn.