[Leed]

Some of you may remember that my son was in the hospital, and at the time he was literally dying because his liver had stopped working completely. They weren't positive he was going to make it, and called us to the hospital at 3:30am because he was near death.

Well, they've been working on him for 2 months now, and he's ready to come home! I'm bringing him to my house but I've got to make SURE he doesn't drink. Dear God, I'll have to watch him 24/7.

He's still very unstable on his feet, but there's a convenience store just l block from our home. I'm going to have to stick close to him, like flies to fly paper! This is going to be rough. I don't trust him any further than I can throw him. He's been thru hell, but even at that, I'm not sure he's learned his lesson!

I need some prayers folks. If he drinks, he's dead. Yes, I'll take him to meetings, but it didn't work before. Oh God.

[missbelle]

Are you sure you want to bring him home? This will be tough. Is there anywhere else he could go? I will be honest and tell you that no way could I handle my son or my daughter if I brought them home. It would literally kill me, and my mental health would be gone totally. As much as I care, and love my two alcoholic children I cannot risk the danger it would pose on myself. Besides, then someone else would have to pick up my pieces, and that would fall with the other daughter who can't handle it either!

[Leed]

Unfortunately, home IS the only place he can go. He had an apartment, but no way is he going there. For one thing, he can't be trusted there, and for another he needs care at home - he doesn't have a car, and the last reason is he got evicted for allowiing people not on the lease to stay there. He's no nice, and he had some homeless friends that he allowed to stay with him. That's a no no. So they evicted him. Seems rotten since the rent was always paid on time, but oh well.

So home he comes. You're right, I'll probably lose my cotton-pickin mind over this. With any luck, I'll be committed, and won't have to worry about anything anymore.

[splitimage]

Oh leed,

My thoughts and prayers will be with you. What a difficult situation to be in. Just remember to look after yourself too, in all of this.

splitimage

[madisgram]

leedi think split image said it for me quite well.
i will certainly pray for all of you. you know what may or not happen due to your own sobriety time. i think this situation is up to the Lord. you are doing or have done all you can do. i'm happy to hear he is somewhat better. but please take good care of yourself. none of us can keep anyone from drinking no matter how much we love them though. i hope this will be his last bottom.

[notz]

none of us can keep anyone from drinking no matter how much we love them though. ~Madisgram

True words.

I recommend Al-Anon meetings to help you learn how to cope. Close examination of yourself through meetings will be of benefit.

Please post often.

[Leed]

Yup Notz -- I've been going. So I'm prepared. I know this is going to be a real trial & test of my OWN sobriety, but with a few 24 hrs under my belt, I think I'll make it. Thanks Notz. I appreciate it.

[Leed]

Thanks EVERYONE for your replies! You all are fantastic! Today is the day we bring him home. so we'll see what kind of shape he's in.

I'm taking him to a meeting on Sunday, come hell or high water whether he wants to go or not. LOL Even if he doesn't want to go, SOMETHING someone say just MIGHT 'click" in his head. So it's worth it.

Again, THANK YOU everyone. I knew I could count on YOU. Love, Lee

[beauflow]

(((Leed and Son))) Hoping the best for you both here...

I don't think I can say anything more than what has already been said

Good well thoughts to you and many many 's

[Caretaker Leo]

Lee - sending lots of hugs and prayers. But I think you are doing the right thing.

[equive]

Hi. I read your story and wanted to share a perspective from the currently using addict's point of view.

My mom has tried to house me at various stages during my addiction. I truly appreciate everything she has done for me. Unfortunately, I feel like a disappointment to her because I frequently slip up. Sometimes she gets frustrated and puts me back out on my own, which usually means I end up living on the streets or strangers' houses, and doing whatever I can to make money to just get by.

She and I haven't created that relationship together where I feel comfortable going to her with issues or when I relapse, so when it happens, I lie about it and hope she doesn't find out. When she does, the fall out is worse than if I'd just told her the truth, but I'm afraid to just tell her the truth. She can be volatile and react without thinking when facing a difficult situation.

So my encouragement to you would be, remember that no matter what you do or how closely you watch your son, if he wants to find a way to drink, he will. But also remember that your actions may save his life or keep him from having to do the things I did - and make sure you take care of yourself first, so that you are in a position to take care of him at all.

I'll be thinking about you, and good luck.

[layla11]

Hi Lee, my prayer are with you and your son. My next door neighbor, who I have known for several years son lives with her, and was in the hospital for months. One thing that she did was purchase a breathalyser. May seen a little harsh, and maybe you wont need it I hope. Lets see, Is he ready to quit? Well, I guess thats a stupid question. I know with me I got sick and tierd of being sick. What has gotten me though some really tuff times is my relationship with god.