[Leed]

Days of Healiing, Days of Joy ......... Sept. 27

Not to decide is to decide..............HarveyCox

No one can force us to make a decision we don't want to make. Until we're ready we can't force good decisions - let alone make them stick. Except for a few rare occasions we can usually get along very well without making any decisions at all. But sooner or later, decision - making time does catch up with us: we've gotten all the advice we need, thought about it, and prayed about it. The time has come.

Rather than freeze and put it off, we should remember that we have only a limited amount of time. And the quality of those days and years is totally dependent on the decisions we make. Never again will we have this hour to live over.

When the time comes, we mustn't be afraid to make any decision in favor of life. The opportunity to decide about right now will not come again. We can either look at this truth and cringe or see it as an opportunity and seize it with gratitude. It is exciting to consider that we can make decisions now, about our lives now, that will enhance our lives forever.
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I will train myself when facing decisions to see them as opportunities rather than dreadful problems.

When I was drinkiing, I could no sooner make a decision about anything, than I could fly. I didn't have the self-esteem to be sure that any decision I made was the right one. Not only that, but my then husband had always told me how stupid I was, so I always ended up consulting him before makiing any decision. After I was divorced, I had an AWFUL time makiing decisions - I had no one but ME to fall back on in making that decision, and I had to make sure I was making the right one. But the longer I was sober, the easier it was to make those decisions, as my self-esteem was growing as was the trust in myself that I was capable of makiing any decision -- and even if it was the wrong one, I could handle the disappointment without drinking!

[madisgram]

a great quote leed. procrastination was my middle name. it all came from fear. fear that had no basis. so i put off making decisions. then i found i could bounce things off to my sober friends. not at a meeting but later. as i learned to not see everything as fearful i gained confidence. afterall i was fearful of staying sober yet i did! then as well as today i consider my options and make the best choice based on facts. i am now willing to accept if i didn't make the best choice cause i did my best. and the best part for me is i no longer use the option to drink. i know it will only create a mess and the decision still needs to be made and awaits when i "come to". sobriety has given me far more than what the literature tells me. i think of the promises, big book, and those promises have come true. so i correct myself re that last sentence. today i'm free to make decisions thanks to my sobriety.