I want my "SON" back

This is a hard step. So forgive me if for some reason you can't read because. of spelling, periods, or for any reason. I began by telling you about my son he was pretty much a trouble child. I tried everything i could to do something to get him some wear in life as he got older. I learned early in his life i could not control him it's impossible for anyone. It's like when they get in trouble you say i didn't tell you to do that. So as he got older Things got worse so worse. He found a bad croud and started robbing houses and doing drugs at that time I got my pain disorder and was smoking pot. Well he got caught and was charge with burgerly to a habitaty. Got 5 years 250 comunity service and some other stuff. Things were just ok for awhile. Than one day he found this stuff called k2. everything change that day. He began to change got very mean things were just not the same. He's been smoking it going on three years now. i'e can't stop him or i'e would of by now. One day i just new somethin was gonna happen sorry i'm weeping in tears. and it dit about two weeks ago he got stealing in a store they arrested him. Except he pulled the crazy act ant went to the psych ward.. Got out on a free bond for now. He reports on the 12 of this month. Everything i goole say a violation means jail time i wanted something to happen. Got it now i can't stop crying it's horrible to see my son go to jail. What Will come of this?

avoice, it may sound harsh to you but i feel jail time for him might at least make him think where he's headed in life if he doesn't change. it sounds like thus far he's gotten away from punishment. these behaviors usually escalate to more serious behaviors. but as you said only he can change himself. as a mother too i know how very upsetting all this is to you. we always want the best for our kids.
k2 use can be deadly. i'm surprised he has not experienced a near fatal event. but his use of this you cannot control either. here's some info for you the best suggestion i can offer is speak with him about your concerns. encourage him to consider a drug re-hab. but please know the decision falls into his lap. i wish i could be of more help.

That's thing if he was going to smoke that crap they call death and I could not stop him. all the yelling all the fighting and believe me i used my voice on it a lot. Than my job was to learn everything and i mean everything about that deadley crap. so i figured i would goole it as long as it took. Some time to wear it just wore me out. sometimes in the middle of a night mare just woke up and would goole some more. I know now my son is a lucky one I also know he slowly killing him self cause he can't breath sometimes pukes every morning blames it on my cooking. So yes I so glad something happened. I want a good out come cause i want my son back so much dami't

(((((((((((avoice)))))))))) I am thinking of you, and your son everyday. I know the feeling of anger, frustration, helplessness I experienced when my son and daughter decided they knew EVERYTHING!; and it was the most impossible thing for me to realize, and step back so that I could survive it all,, because they were of age, they could, by law, destroy themselves if they so chose...They both almost did too! OUCH--major heartbreak..total helplessness...it was sheer h e l l! (for me, that is over now, though it is still nerve wracking in that they, at 35 and 36; still have to make mistakes before they will listen to me..then, they apologize...after they've hurt themselves in some way )

"Little People, Little problems; Big People Big Problems!"--

Parenting is sooo easy when kids are underage, and within your control!!!

It amazes me how much so many parents have to suffer once their kids are "grown up"--geez..you do everything, PTA, Talent shows, Manage Little League, etc... then....POOF!

and for you? Or me? That feeling is so familiar..yes? HELPLESSNESS? PTSD...it's as if the kids rip your heart right outta you, even though you did everything as you thought you should have: "boundaries", "Discipline" "Control"

We both monitored their friends, where they were, involved them in athletics, my son and daughter in dance, piano, guitar, church... all the right stuff to somehow get them to have better lives than the horrors we lived as children-( you and I, (((avoice))) were helpless little ones, easy prey to monsters), and it was so hard, cause we didn't have the background we gave our own kids; but we did it the "right" way, the way we always thought it should be done, I sometimes wonder if this sort of stuff is a sick "test" of our abilities to cope beyond what we already have endured in our youth!!--still, they know it all, go out and do what they do, and we are powerless to stop them...

(((((((((((((((avoice)))))))))))))--count down to the 12th, and the best outcome; I agree with you, I am hoping and praying for a rehab place where they give him more than 6 weeks: 6 weeks is not enough, that stuff is lethal.

Please remember something? This is not the little boy who you knew who is doing this...
this is someone under the control of an evil addiction; he will hurt you over and over again
until he gets straight, and back to being the son you raised in all good faith.

The "son" you "want back" has to get clean so the two of you can meet again...and enjoy life together...you are ever in my thoughts. I endured many years separate from my kids; because they had to get straight to realize What is important in life!"--

With you in spirit, ((((((((((((((a voice))))))))))))))take care of you, please? Google for a good rehab? Make sure you are eating? This will pass, and I am counting the days with you here..8 more days.......love you much. xoxoxoxo

I'm very sorry your going suck a crap time
I was a very out of control teen & young adult similar to your son. I just want you to know that only he has the power to get sober. Don't put that off on yourself. I feel so guilty for what I put my parents through, but I was self-medicating and refused to accept help. Take care of yourself.

Peace & Hugs,

TnT

Take Care

I'm so sorry you're going thru this. My son has been a "problem child" all of his life. He began drinking as a teenager, and before long he was a full blown alcoholic. He got into minor scrapes as a teen, and then he totaled a car with another teen in it when he was 19 -- they both were almost killed!!! Of course they were both drunk!! He lost his license for awhile from that one.

But he kept drinking. That didn't stop him or scare him. He figured he was immortal!

Fast forward in his 30's he and a buddy were drunk and thought it would be funny to set a farmers field on fire -- they got caught, and went to prison! My son served 2 1/2 yrs on a 5 yr sentence. Now he's a felon. THAT didn't even stop him.

Again fast forward to this past spring when I get a call from the hospital telling me to get there fast because my son is dying! His liver had completely shut down!!! We fly over there (40 miles away) and he's all yellow, and there's tubes coming out of every orifice he has. He's unconscious and I ask the doctor how much time he has, and the doctor just shakes his head. My daughter, granddaughter and I stand vigil, and the next day he semi-wakes up and wants to know where he is -- then goes back to sleep. This goes on for days on end. My daughter takes a picture of him at his worst so she can show him if he ever wakes up and is lucid.

Fast forward again --- he's home now, and the doctors don't know why he survived!! His liver is working, although not 100%. But it's working, and that's a miracle in itself. He's doing very well -- he's weak from being lazy but if he'd get up and exercise like he should he'd be fine. But he hasn't had a drink in almost 5 months and he said he's ALL DONE because the picture my daughter took scared the crap out of him -- and the fact that he almost died scared the heck out of him too!

So he FINALLY hit his bottom. But he had to almost die to do it. Pretty pitiful, isn't it? But that's what sometimes happens. Some people have to almost DIE to get sober.

Sorry haven't responded to you'll. Had a lot on my mind lately. Having convo with my son. K2 really has him he say's no it's not. I say when you got on k2 part of me lost you. I don't even see you anymore he said yes you do. i say when? That when i started to cry and said Jordan Just go I can't talk to you that yell I want my son back.

I have been in the system since 12yrs. old.
All I have to say is PRAY and DON'T GIVE UP on him, No Matter What happens!