[Leilee]

Made a huge booboo, or F--- Up! I tried to make an amend where it injured the other party and myself in return. Not so easy because I reside with the person and now I'm feeling an urgent need to flee. Sometimes I think I really need to live alone.

[wanting]

A little more information would be helpful but as you posted here i guess it is something you did while drunk and now regrett and god how i know how that feels,but somehow the people who know you come to expect this kind of behavior and it then becomes more acceptable wich is probably a bad thing,well anyway before i hijack your thread i will say this i would probably just apologise and carry on as normal but it depends on what your talking about though if you want to chat pm me

[ster]

I have seen a lot of people when they are making ammes they make it very hard on them selves. (Say like a husband doing a fifth step they tell Their wifes I had sex with your sister. looking at the motive behind the this ) I stress this very much. In anything we as alco, do look at the motive behind the action. Wishing you well.

[shadowalker164]

I’m with Ster. We are hard on ourselves, cut ourselves no slack, but we are always gentle with others. I can not save my skin at the expense of someone else. Always check with your sponsor, or some other sober and sane alcoholic in recovery before doing an amends.

Sometimes, what we need to do is tell God and another human being not involved in the deal what we did, and just let it go at that.

Always get sober feedback before taking actions like this. Others can see the right course of action before we can quite often.

But now that it is done, the bumpy amends, accept your part in it, and move on. You are hopefully wiser for it. And now you can share that hard earned wisdom with someone else.

Richard