[jes196940]

I have very few close friends. When I first meet women I always seem to think how attractive they are rather than just meet them and move on. If after meeting them goes well and friendly, SOMETIMES not always, I will tend to flirt and see how she accepts it. This at times has gone nowhere and they do not stay in touch and/or sometimes we become friends with benefits. The FWB seems to always be short lived and no real connection ever seems to happen.

As far as the addiction part? I cheated in my first marriage and did this often. Now separated 3 months from my second marriage of 7+years(NOT being a cheater - mainly because I would not put myself in those situations of finding a FWB) for not providing her with unconditional love and support I was told, I find myself alone unhappy and worried I may go back to that person. Either way the person I've become is terrible.

[sideblinded]

You may not necessarily have an addiction but it can't be ruled out either. It could stem from something in your upbringing. You may have the need to be accepted or you may have an intense need to be excited. You may need to be found worthy and attractive. So many things could be going on. I always suggest seeing a therapist to resolve these concerns as they are trained to deal with these questions. Best of luck.

[tipper1492]

Addiction? I think you need to take that up with some one in the field. You could also be BP like me, and self medicating yourself. I know I did for years. Something is going on, and get some help. There is nothing to be ashamed of because there are so many like us, and some never seek help which is a big mistake. If you go through life thinking there could be something wrong, but never seek help, that's a shame for sure.