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I'm learning how to have 'me time' without being secretive- that came from my time using drugs- I didn't want anyone to know I was doing them
I need to spend more time with others again, relearn my social skills that I let erode away. It's hard to get out of bad habits even once you've quit doing drugs. I have more experience being alone now than with others. Even as a child I would be found alone in my rooming reading books off in a fantasy world. Then in college and for years afterward I'd be alone in my dorm room/apartment doing drugs and listening to music/watching movies- off in my own world. . . .
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Except for my family, I tend to be a loner too. I have no friends of my own that I can just call up and make plans with. I have plenty of "friends" but they are all my husband's friends. But I couldn't hide my drinking. Just tried to hide how much I was drinking.
I have plenty of me time, working from home and being a housewife. But it is more pleasant now ... not waiting and waiting for 5pm so I can have that first drink.
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Yeah, it can be really helpful to find things you enjoy doing and the things that comfort you. That can helpbin recovery and help guide you into the future. You could fill your time exploring what activities you like. Sometimes you've got to be brave to step out of your comfort zone and find what brings you joy and pleasure.
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I prefer to be alone most of the time too. I realized my problem is rude, inconsiderate people. I get along fine with people who have manners. Because I myself am polite and I have manners. I treat others with respect and as long as they treat me with the same respect, everything is great.
However, I often come into contact with people who are socially inept, who have no manners. That's when it becomes difficult for me, because people like that, do not respond appropriately to people who are polite. They will bully, manipulate, and try to take advantage of me. My usual response is to isolate and think that all people are bad, and that I just need to avoid them to have peace. But not all people are bad. Some are, and I am working on boundaries and assertiveness so I can deal with those people more effectively. I am also trying to find the right balance of alone time and socialization.
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