[StarPonysMama]

Friday my dad stopped by my house to see me. I had forgotten he was going to stop by and it did not dawn on me until my cell phone rang. At that point I jumped in the car and told him I was headed that way and I would be there in 15 minutes.

I'm not sure if he got impatient, his feelings hurt, upset or what but - when I turned on the small dirt road leading to my house, he was pulling out in his car. We stopped on the road and talked and I apologized again and just told him I honestly forgot and had a lot of things on my mind with work and what not. He lives about 55 miles from where I do so - seeing him is not real often and I did feel bad about being late.

The second day I had quit drinking, I told my dad about it. He seemed very proud. Kind of questioned how much I had REALLY been drinking. I just told him that I drank more than some and less than others but, I knew it was becoming a problem and I wanted to eliminate that from my life.

So I thought he understood.

When I left him on the dirt road......I went home and he went home 55 miles away. I got home and went in the back door which opens into the kitchen. I had some Whiskey left in a bottle on top of the fridge that, to be honest, I had not even thought about. I was never a big liquor drinker - I was a beer drinker. But what I saw just totally floored me.

There sitting in the middle of my kitchen island next to the sink was that big bottle of Whiskey with a bottle of diet coke (that would be for me) and a half a bottle of regular Pepsi (that would be for him). Now, he knows what battle I have had to fight. I reminded him last Tuesday that it had been over 30 days that I had not had a drink.

Is it just me or does that have, "Go ahead, have a drink!" written all over it?

My mom apparently had even come down while he was there and saw it and said, "Ravyn is drinking??????" And even after that he did not put it up or take it with him like I had told him to. He introduced me to that Whiskey so I told him the next time he came by he could take it with him. I"m sorry but it just seems like it was brought out and left out to breed temptation.

Lucky for me I'm strong and I put that bottle right back on top of the fridge. I put the diet coke up there too.....guess it was some type of association with it. But did I EVER have to fight the urge.

Is it just me - or is that just completely RUDE?

[Cyran0]

Rude doesn't quite cover it. It's mean.

btw, I'd dump the whiskey down the sink if I were you. I'd hate to have that kind of temptation around.

Cyran0

[StarPonysMama]

A friend of mine that was kind of a part-time room mate until he got divorced took it Sunday when he came to get the few little things he had there in the guest bedroom. (He was such a good friend that when he found out I quit - he refused to bring alcohol in my house out of respect).

I think it's mean too. I think it would be different if he didn't know, but the fact is he did, and my mom even reminded him.

[splitimage]

I think it's definitely insensitive - but it could have simply been clueless thinking. Sometimes people don't get it when we tell them that we've stopped drinking. They think it's for a while, or that just one won't hurt.

I'm glad that it's out of your house though. I can't have any liquor in my house the temptation would be too strong.

---splitimage