[Moose372]

I met a guy at the coffee shop a couple months back. Older than my dad. (I'm 36.) He says he is an addictive personality so he doesn't do drugs. When I get manic (bipolar), I throw caution to the wind. He and I have been having coffee together every morning before work, except the last two weeks. He'd take me to his landlord jobs, out to eat, to the casino.... Went to his place last night and ended up getting vicodin and marijuana. Never smoked anything in my life! Well the vidocin took away my back ache (sprained it) but nothing more. The smoking did zip. But I still have this horrible guilty feeling. This guy wants to be "more than friends" it seems, so I eventually left after watching tv and today I just deleted his phone #. I had two dreams during two naps today - I remember waking up between upset: In each, my boyfriend had broken up with me and I couldn't get ahold of him at all anymore. I got a new perspective on my relationshop with my BF of 2 1/2 years. I dunno what got into me except the bipolar need to self-injur. Could've gotten myself into a lot more trouble!

[PsyChris]

I'm sorry you had that experience. Bipolar disorder puts you at an increased risk for substance abuse and "self medication."

Another part of addictive personalities is they don't like to give up what they like. I think you should be prepared for him to try to communicate with you. Have you thought what you are going to say to him?

Also, I'm glad you gained a new perspective on your relationship. Do you feel like your Manic symptoms have subsided now?

[StarPonysMama]

Good for you for deleting the number.

You do need to prepare yourself for when he does try to contact you. Just because you deleted his number, doesn't mean he deleted yours.

He sounds like trouble for you.

I have had to eliminate MANY people from my life that are addictive personalities.

GOOD LUCK! I wish you the best!

[Stiv]

Starting a realtionship (even platonic) with a (at least at this point, though it would probably grow) facet engaging in substance usage (yes even booze) is a somewhat dysfunctional start IMO.

Not healthy especially if you have personal issues AND are already in a commited relationship. Unfortunately in some respects you have opened a door to this person and hopefully whatever foothold he has will be very minimal.

Be pleasent but firm if he contacts you that you are uncomfortable with spending time together because of your current relationship and hope that will suffice.

On another note the weed smoking and lack of effect is common but if you do smoke again prepare for that neural pathway to open up and then you WILL ghet the full effect and you may or may not be happy with the result.

Be very careful on both counts. Good luck

[Stiv]

Oh and one other thing. Commonly the first one or two times that someone smokes weed they in fact will get no effect, but like I said previously it won't always bee that way and the amount smoked and the potency of the product will dictate when and how great the intoxication will be.

[Moose372]

Thanks everyone.

He did contact me again via txt message once. I just ignored him. I had enjoyed going to the coffee shop before work (where I met him), but now I guess I'll just be saving money as he is usually there in the a.m.