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Old Jun 01, 2013, 03:38 PM
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Just eat. Just stop this. Don't do it to yourself.

Yes, that is really helpful advice. I will do that right away because it's all my fault, right?
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Old Jun 01, 2013, 05:37 PM
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I don't know the details of your pain, but it is not all your fault. It isn't no matter what anyone says. I know to some extent what you are experiencing right now. I don't have great advice or words, but I know what you are feeling.
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Old Jun 02, 2013, 03:16 PM
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Old Jun 02, 2013, 04:51 PM
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It's not all our fault .....there are lots of things that go into ED's.....sadly however we are the only ones who can stop our ED's...& it does take our own strength....it's not something anyone else can do for us......but it'd definitely NOT our fault that we experienced whatever it was that brought the ED into our life in the first place.
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Old Jun 05, 2013, 11:38 AM
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I agree. It's not our fault that we have EDs, but recovery is our responsibility and unfortunately it's much, much more than simply realizing it's a problem and then voila, it's gone. It can take a long time to become stable in recovery, because there are stages. I have never known anyone who's successfully recovered from their ED say that it was a one-step process. Hang in there.
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Old Jun 06, 2013, 09:40 AM
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The problem with ED's is that there is usually some trauma or some abuse or something that has happened way back in our life time that we don't even tie with being the cause for the ED....that has gone untreated sometimes because we don't even remember it happening.....so it's not just a matter of treating the ED....there is much more deeper that needs to be treated & understood & handled for there to really be success in dealing with the actual ED itself.
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Old Jun 07, 2013, 10:57 AM
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In my experience, I have to deal with my past abuse and learn to retrain my thinking. Its not your fault and i hate when people say Just stop. It doesnt work that way. It is our repsonsibility to work on the underlying issues so we dont end up doing permanent damamge to our bodies.
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Old Jun 09, 2013, 03:29 PM
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Thanks everyone.

I just want to beat, beat, beat this out of myself. I want to beat myself so hard I pass out. And then when I wake up I'm normal. I am so in despair and brokenhearted about my life.
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Old Jun 09, 2013, 04:15 PM
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My problem is overeating--I was even 120 pounds over weight at one time! I've lost all that but I gained some back. Well, my point is, that I agree that it's not about "just stopping." If it were, I wouldn't have been so heavy. And I'm sure all of you would have "just stopped" if it were that easy, altho I also agree that we have to be the ones to do something about it--but we all know that it's not just a matter of changing our eating habits; it's not about "just eat something" or "just don't purge" or "just have one donut and stop there." I know for me, this is a daily battle, so I'm sure that it is for you too. And I have felt like "beating" myself because I feel like I just can't control myself and that I'm such a loser, "Why can't I just eat like normal people."
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Old Jun 09, 2013, 04:17 PM
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p.s. Lots of hugs to you--and you are not alone in this.
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Old Jun 09, 2013, 09:33 PM
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It breaks my heart to Roseleigh to hear you say you want to beat yourself into submission. It's my hope and prayer that you (and all who are suffering) find the ability to love yourself into health and wellness.
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Old Jun 11, 2013, 11:48 AM
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I hope that you are in therapy that is working on the deeper issues that are behind your ED issues. It's better placing your energy on that kind of work than beating yourself for something you didn't do. Obviously, beating yourself up won't do any good, however, working with a T on all the many years of issues that have gone into the situation you find yourself in today.....will be what does some good. It takes a lot of work & a lot of mindfulness....but it is possible.
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Old Jun 26, 2013, 10:15 PM
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I wish it were that easy... I just met a new guy and he tried to bargain with me over this as in "If you refuse to eat, I'll stop seeing you". I'm already in treatment and I just met this guy and I can't imagine a more horrible thing to say to a person with an eating disorder.

Please don't beat yourself up over having these problems, they aren't your fault and it's not an easy road to walk.
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