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#1
Sep 01, 2016, 02:16 AM
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Tonight I found out my friend is anorexic. She said she has been for about a year. What can I do to help and support her? What kinds of things should I say and not say?
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Sep 01, 2016, 01:07 PM
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The one thing is not to push eating on your friend.
There is probably something much deeper under her anorexia than just body image issues though that tends to be what it ende up looking like at the tip of the ice berg. The problem is that what is underneath takes good therapy treatment to crack & we as untrained just friends have no capability to even touch on the underlying issues....just be there & listen is about the best thing you can do. Don't encourage the behavior but also don't try to encourage eating as it can come across as forcing even though it's not what you are doing. Just be there & listen & throw in a voice of reason if it feels appropriate & not accusing. I'm sure others will have more suggestions.
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Oct 31, 2016, 07:17 PM
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It's always important to let her know that you are there for her. Try not to comment on her weight, EVER. It only makes anything worse, even if you mean well. The best thing you can do is probably do lots of research on eating disorders. That's what I tell my family, and it means a lot to me when they do pick up books on eating disorders so that they can better understand what I'm going through. Life Without Ed is a good place to start. It's a very easy read and gives some good insight into the ED world.
I think it's awesome that you're already trying to learn more. Keep it up, and don't get discouraged if your friend seems to be pushing you away.
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Nov 25, 2016, 04:44 AM
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You sound like a wonderful friend for wanting to help her. Tell her you are there for her, and that you care about her. Eating disorders can be so complex.... Try to be her friend; not her doctor, dietition, therapist etc.
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Nov 25, 2016, 06:52 AM
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I hope everything is going good.
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Aug 03, 2017, 04:10 PM
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I have no advice as I am newly diagnosed,I just wanted to say well done for being a good friend because it is a scary lonely place to be x
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Aug 03, 2017, 10:13 PM
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Treat your friend like NORMAL. Ask her to the things you typically would, share about yourself, maintain your friendship.
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