how does it make you feel? If it's someone you like and they no longer like you or they despise you, how do you feel and what do you do? And what about someone you aren't close to? Or does it not bother you at all?

[kaliope]

it bothers me when people don't like me, both people I know well and those I don't know all that well, because I consider myself a nice person and I would wonder what I did wrong to make someone not like me. because I am shy, I know I tend to come across as a ****** I have been told, so sometimes I just chalk it up to that and I have to give people the opportunity to get to know me, so they see me differently. so when people don't like me, I tell myself it is just a misunderstanding, they just haven't got to know me yet.

Thanks but I only wanted answers from people with Antisocial Personality Disorder.

ASPD and liking people? I can pretend to like people to get something I need or want, but to just like someone or want them around for no reason. No. People to me are like walking by someone on the street I notice them, but they are gone from my mind by the time I round the next corner. Doesn't matter if I've known them for a long time or a new aquaintance they hold no importance to me if they are not useful (and very few ever are for very long).

[ocdwifeofsociopath]

i'm not aspd, but I know my husbands reactions well. It's a short **** them and a slight shrug. If it's someone he was trying to win over (for whatever reason) he gets a little more grumpy in his previous statement, and very rarely what appears to me as defensive. but it is always very short lived and he feels in general about people the same way Sumptypabroken does.

[hoping4best]

i have recently found out that a close relative doesnt like me because of my anger management issues....and im distraught by it.

[Aeri]

It seems like nobody likes me. Its disappointing but I cannot allow myself to crumble because of it.
If its someone I really like who doesn't like me, it can be devastating, and cause me to withdraw even more.
No one is obligated to like me, so its wrong for me to feel entitled to adoration.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Originally Posted by Aeri

It seems like nobody likes me. Its disappointing but I cannot allow myself to crumble because of it.
If its someone I really like who doesn't like me, it can be devastating, and cause me to withdraw even more.
No one is obligated to like me, so its wrong for me to feel entitled to adoration.

I think you're in the wrong forum...

[IndieVisible]

Originally Posted by nevergoodenough

how does it make you feel? If it's someone you like and they no longer like you or they despise you, how do you feel and what do you do? And what about someone you aren't close to? Or does it not bother you at all?

angry and I want to hurt them.

[Demon]

Originally Posted by nevergoodenough

how does it make you feel? If it's someone you like and they no longer like you or they despise you, how do you feel and what do you do? And what about someone you aren't close to? Or does it not bother you at all?

I don't really care if they like me or not. People are useless anyway unless you can get something out of them. If they stop liking me... big deal. I'm indifferent towards them.

[derangedunit]

someone liking you is only beneficial while you are in their presence, afterwards it is more trouble than it is worth so i prefer to maintain a constant distance... it might even be said i prefer people dislike me, though i am often seen in good humor and most people around me assume i'm joking when i smile at them and say they are worthless to me. to take a line from the last person i told(for the dozenth time or so) "yes... that one is hard... for me to accept what 'there is no reason for me to' means.. that after spending a significant time with me.. you find no value in me That would be hard for anyone.. even you.. when it is your turn to hear it from someone. I had no idea you were just toying with me...but, that's the risk of being real... Come get your *** whipping *****... you have earned it.."

[IndieVisible]

Not even, some people don't like people for no good reason even before they get to know them.

[chikster]

Originally Posted by nevergoodenough

how does it make you feel? If it's someone you like and they no longer like you or they despise you, how do you feel and what do you do? And what about someone you aren't close to? Or does it not bother you at all?

If it's someone I like or even it's someone I'm not close to and they no longer like me, how does it make me feel? I try to figure out what the cause is and if it's worth my while for me to change I will if that's what's needed, if not I move on. There's always a feeling of loss no matter the cause. The ending of most relationships is like a death, you mourn, go through all the steps of mourning, that's how we heal and are able to move on.
Best,
K

[noswanson1982]

While I haven't necessarily been diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder, I do have borderline personality disorder (which is mostly similar). If someone doesn't like me, I tend towards homicidal thoughts. Like, wishing they would die, or thinking about how I would do it if I were to snap.

How are borderline personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder similar? I'm not arguing, just wondering.

[IndieVisible]

Originally Posted by nevergoodenough

How are borderline personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder similar? I'm not arguing, just wondering.

They couldn't be further different, BPD feels way too much, ASPD feels nothing.

Perhaps the rage is the only thing they have in common that I can think of.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Originally Posted by nevergoodenough

How are borderline personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder similar? I'm not arguing, just wondering.

I agree with IndieVisible, and I would also add that both are inclined towards being very impulsive.

[wisedude]

I don't like people who are in general criminal, highly aggressive or harm or hurt others. I will exclude such people from my life and not tolerate them (or their behavior) in any way.

If you act like a psycho, you can't expect normal people to like you.

[TTTT4]

Originally Posted by Demon

I don't really care if they like me or not. People are useless anyway unless you can get something out of them. If they stop liking me... big deal. I'm indifferent towards them.

I agree if they serve no purpose then throw the relationship away.

[shantytown]

Depends on the day and the mood i am in. I could get a little aggressive and then regret it the next day. I then get anxious about the person not liking me or whatever. But it all comes down to the truth. I don't like people. They can be a passage introducing evil into my life. I don't know how to communicate, conversate, blah blah blah but if i am honest with myself i really couldn't care less if i have friends. I'm much better off w/o them anyway. Too much maintainence too

[RogueWolf]

Originally Posted by Atypical_Disaster

I think you're in the wrong forum...

anti-social people are still human and all humans have need for connection. Even physcopaths need connections with others.

[RogueWolf]

Everyone doesn't like me, it doesn't bother me that people don't like me. It does bother me that I have noone to watch a movie with or play pool with or talk to about things cos most people are stupid and only can talk about who fking who etc. Any time something remotely intelligent or philisophical comes up they go quiet or try to talk about gossip/stupid crap or leave. It bothers me that retards laugh at me when I do or say something they don't understand, not when I made a mistake I mean when I did/said something right and they are stupid and believe bs they heard and all pick on me cos I said the right thing that they didn't know was right. like when there is a popualr myth everyone thinks is true but I tell them it's not cos of things I've learned and they pick on me even though I am actually right, that shts me and happens a lot. prob happens a lot cos mass popualtion believe anything said by celebrities or on tv idk

[Insignificant other]

Angry and lonely .. I've been dealing with this for a very long time .. Angry mostly!