[Shaymus]

So the youngest is graduating and so my gfs family is going to be here as well as the youngest's dad. That many people alone with my social anxiety is too much but also cause her dad is a real dirtball. Im not sure how i will react or if he will antagonize me. Its too much for me to deal with and if i dont go the youngest will be really disapointed. I dont want to be hated but on the other hand if i do go and if he antagonizes me i can see myself knocking him out. I dont want that. So im at a loss as to what the right decision is. My psuedo plan at the moment is a few days before hand just check myself into the psych ward. Thats not a great plan either but it gets me out of having to intentionally hurt her feelings. Or i could just run away and sleep in my vehicle for a week but id assume that would cause just as much chaos as me knocking him out. This isnt happening til June 1st or something like that so why am i worrying now? Cause the youngest is excited and talks about it pretty much constantly which just eggs on my anxiety. Why shouldnt she be? She is proud and excited to be completing a milestone in life. Rationally it makes perfect sense and she should be happy and looking forward to it. It drives my anxiety thru the roof tho and then i get the depression thing goin and blech. Any suggestions on what i can do?

[jmo531]

((((((SHAY)))))

First off I would like to give a congrats on the daughter graduating. That is such a big accomplishment.

The reason your anxious about it now even though its not until June is because thanks what us panickers do. We worry about everything, all the time. Its normal.
I think that you need to focus on the fact that this event is for your daughter. This is her day. You need to be there for her to support her and to let her know how proud you are. As for the EX Dirt Bag. I would call him ahead of time to lay down some ground rules. Fighting is the last thing you need to do at this event.
You will make it through this. I promise. We are all here for you to talk you through this.

Before you know it you'll be posting to us and telling us the wonderful time you had. Stay positive.

Take care Shay. I'll be throwing some good vibes your way.

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[SeptemberMorn]

Only thing I can think of is that when the youngest gets excited and starts talking about it, focus on HER and on what she's saying, not on the event some three months from now. If you can, try disengaging from you and your feelings and concentrate on hers.

As for the event, all I can say is keep yourself safe. You still have some time to figure things out. We're here to help.

[wisewoman]

Hey sweetie, plan to protect yourself. If the family is having a pre-grad dinner then make plans to be there or not. Have youyr own wheels so you can leave when you need to and have a safe place to go. Parents? Sister? So you can be there for the grad and for pictures and disappear while the rest happens. Protect yourself. I know I really need my time alone. You will do fine. The hospital thing doesn't sound quite so cool you know? I have even resorted to motel rooms I can't afford when I need space. Thankfully I have friends who let me crash when the world gets too intense. Good luck. By the way, my youngest graduates this year also.

[saudade]

QUOTE: "So the youngest is graduating and so my gfs family is going to be here as well as the youngest's dad."

Shaymus is nobody's father and has the right to not want to be there, so just don't!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Notice the treatment to the partner: "gfs". Could it be any clearer that you don't have nuthin to do with it and therefore no reason to be bothered?

Moving to a mobile home, though, that's something to worry about. Or not having any food to eat or any heat in the winter or not having water to drink and bathe and all.

Being all alone in the world with absolutely nobody to count on. That's not the case, dear one.