[Chalkdust]

I was not sure where to even put this post but after thinking about it I realize this causes me anxiety so therefore here it's planted. Do you find it hard to make decisions? Recently I have decided to return to college to get a degree. That is not the hard part. I have been teaching for 16 years now. I teach in Christian schools - my degree I have is in Music and Christian Education. This degree is "just fine" for teaching in these type of schools. But as a husband I want to do better for my wife and I..and should there be children in the future for them also. I orginally decided if I was going to go back to college I was going to study and get a degree in "Human Services" which would lead to social worker type positions. But several days ago after thinking that "teaching" jobs would be easier to find when I get done (Teaching positions that reguire the right education degree which therefore pay more money..I am talking about double or even more than I make now) I decided to change my major. My heart is tugged in both directions. The classes on education do not get me all that interested. The classes on Human Service sounds interesting to me. The teaching degree will get me more money, better posistions, and probably be easier to find. The Human Service degree will get me more money (I do not want more money to be selfish I want it to provide) and who knows where I would find a position. In th elong run teaching sounds more "safe." Plus I have been teaching for this long already. Its just I keep feeling tugged in BOTH directions. I don't know what or how I would expect anyone to reply I just needed someplace to put this out there. Anyone else have this much trouble with decision?

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[Myzen]

Hi chalkdust,

Speaking as someone who made this kind of decision in mid life, I would say it's down to vocational or - non vocational.

If your system is anything like ours in the UK, non vocational means nothing at all in the workplace. I guess you have to decide whether you want work and a pension, or what I got - two philosophy degrees and a lot of free time!

Good luck, I'm sure others will have some less cynical advice for you.

Cheers, Myzen

[somebodyelse]

Yes, I can relate to your problem. I have a terrible time making decisions and it causes me much anxiety.

i'm going back to school and i'm 62. go with what your heart tells you. you'll be much happier.......do you think your family would rather have a happy husband/father or a disgruntled one? xoxo pat

[Chalkdust]

Hello again Myzen, Somebodyelse and Pat - thanks kfor your reply.

Myzen: So from what your saying you regret not staying with teaching? Why did you leave it in the first place?

Somebodyelse: I know what you mean decisions are driving me crazy!! Just when I think I "know" what I have decided I can think of several reasons to sway the "other" decisions!

Pat: First of all I must say I read your "bio" I thought it was great! You are ver creative. My heart says do the Human Service route but my mind(?) says teaching would be better off. But your right the fam does need a Happy Husband! 8-=)

I just thought there might be others who have a hard time making decisions. Sometimes it is not the major ones either. One time my wife and I got so worked up about just trying to decide where to go to eat we pulled over and just started laughing and crying because neither on of us could make up our minds! We ended up going home and cooking...which in the long run was probably better off anyway! ha!

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