[mycatsniffy]

I've always had trouble going to the dentist. I've been tossed between mean dentists, old ones, even creepy ones. they have all been so rough with me. in fourth grade, I went to these people, they pulled healthy teeth, held my head down, and screamed at me. it was horrible. and I have a very sensitive gag reflex and I was never handled gently. I have a new dentist, they are very nice and gentle but I'm still afraid. I take lorazopram (sp?) when I go, it helps me calm down, but I still worry very much. I only went for a cleaning so far, even that was difficult. im due for a filling soon and im extremely anxious. I don't know what to do to even get through the door at the dentist.the medicine helps a little but my legs still weaken at the thought of them being way back in my mouth with weird little tools. what if I panic and push them away and I get hurrt with something? i dont know what to do to relax..

[Leed]

Hi ~ I TOTALLY understand your fears. I too had these fears about dentists, as I was "groped" by a dentist while under "gas" - and refused to even GO to the dentist for years. Finally, my daughter had to go with me to a new dentist, to help me get thru it.

Do what i did - explain to the dentist about your fears and why you have them. Explain that you've had dentists that were mean, and who hollered at you and held you down, etc. Explain that you WERE mistreated by these guys, and you're just plain scared. I promise you, he WILL treat you will more care than you've ever had. He will be gentle and caring. Dentists KNOW that there are ogres out there, and they don't ALL want to be like that.

So talk to him - he'll understand. God bless. Hugs, Lee