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Old Aug 22, 2011, 11:48 PM
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Kae you guys..Not just the guys eveybody.!!!

Todae was the first day of school. im in hiighschool and ipromised myself that this year im going to make friends and have a really good time and dont take everything so serious but most impotant MAKE FRIENDS.!!!
im tired of being the one that nobodys know, iwanna be the one that Everybody knows.

Ialready pretty much like all my teachers, you can tell that their pretty layback on how things go. its juust the kidds im terrified of. icouldnt stop freaking out the whole daay. Iwanted to go up to people and talk to them Soo baad, ijust couldn't.! ihave to stop beiing such a *****, ineed to try to make conversation with these people or else im never gonna be happy. its just soo ****ing hard to make a good impression on somebody when all you do is think about the way your acting, but who im acting isnt my promblem riight now, the promblem is "What The **** am igonna saay.!!??"

This is the part that ireally get stuck on after iget through the process of convicing myself to talk to people. iNever know what the hell im going to say, After all the basics of course, when im trying to befriend them. Idont want there to be any silent moment to distract me to trigger the over thinking basiclly. My Sister says to ask question, But what do iask.?? idont want them to think that im liike creepy you know.?

Also another thing thats been on my mind what do isay after when somebody is done telling me liike a long story about what they did.?? liike say if iasked them what did you do this summer.?? Then they go on telling me about what they did Blaaah bllaaah blaah, then they stop talking expecting me to say something then when itry to open my mouth .....
Can you say Awkard. idont want them to think iwasn't listenin to them or that thier storys aren't intersenting.!! iJust get stuck my mind goes blank cause im thinking...A Thing that ireally need to stop doing.!! Gaaaah, > ihate my Braiin.!!!!!

Any Suggestions on what to do in these situations.!?
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Old Aug 23, 2011, 04:01 AM
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Be kind to yourself

It's just the first day. Believe it or not, others feel the same as you - wanting to make friends and at the same time being afraid of taking that first step. When you want to talk to someone, imagine that they are wanting what you want, wanting to talk to someone but afraid - so when you approach them, you are helping them to feel better.

There is no time limit. The first day or days can be full of so many new things to remember, organize, figure out. You have plenty of time to fulfill your desire for more friends and you don't have to put pressure on yourself to do that.

When someone tells you a long story, you can say something general like "That sounds great!" Try to just enjoy their story without thinking about how you will respond. Take that pressure off of yourself.

Be genuinely interested in the other person by listening to them and giving them your full attention (not thinking about yourself, what you are going to say, etc). When they are talking to you, they are in the process of impressing you and you don't have to do anything but listen. Even silences are fine.

Good luck on your 2nd day!
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Old Aug 23, 2011, 04:04 AM
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Echoes gives good advice.

Also don't expect everybody to like you and don't expect to like everybody.
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