[Anxiety Annie]

I apologize now if I posted this somewhere odd. I just want to throw all my questions and even some advice out to someone. Maybe even get some insight. So please... respond.

Anyways. I'm here because of my anxiety about porn, nudity, and sex. I just want to know that I'm not alone. My therapist tells me that I have no idea how many people are going through the same thing. She's right I don't know. All I know of is that out of the social network I've wove myself into I am the only one who is this uncomfortable. It's very lonely. I want help. I want to be able to control my anxiety of these things. To not have to run out of the room crying and hysterical. So if there is someone out there...who gets it. Or just wants to talk. Be my guest.

[Pup]

I have OCD and my obsessive thoughts / intrusive thoughts revolve around sexual thoughts amongst others.

It's awful.

Sorry you go through that.

If you want to chat, PM me.

P.S
Millions can relate.

[polarsmom]

Hi Anxiety Annie. I agree with what Pup said. Millions can relate. And believe it or not, it's quite possible that someone you know can relate.

If you don't mind me asking and don't mind answering, Is the anxiety about these things because you do or don't like it? I ask because I wanted to share a few things but I'm not sure if I understand what you are going through.

[neighbor D]

Hey there,

You aren't alone. I read your other post too.

I'm in the same boat as you - I used to be comfortable being exposed to sex and nudity, but now I can't bear to be around it. I break down, feel self conscious and get depressed, anxious, upset... I feel horrible and defeated.

Things changed for me about two and a half years ago when my boyfriend and I watched an online porn clip together. I'll never forget the look on his face as he was lusting for a large breasted, attractive, blonde woman while I was sitting right next to him. I felt like he had cheated on me, and was disgusted that he could get off even viewing that sort of thing. After that he agreed to give up porn.

In the same way the media is defining what is beautiful (dangerously thin or GI Joe buff), porn is defining what is sexy (silicone boobs, tan and toned, pumped lips). Everyday women are in a battle with themselves, and that's partly why I'm so upset when I see sexy stereotypes – an ordinary woman will often feel out-matched in attractiveness.

For myself, I have decided that sex and nudity is something to be embraced between a couple in a loving relationship, and to let other people watch a sexual encounter is to take away from the intimacy of this couple. This degradation of the couple's intimacy is another root of my disposition.

I have the same problem as you do with movies, but I have some advice for you. Look up any movie you are considering watching on IMDb.com. The website contains a "Parents Guide" link where you can view content advisory which includes a "sex and nudity" review. This helps me sensor my movie selections so I don't have to anxiously watch a PG-13 or R.

I hope this helps.

[lancetrot]

There are alternative medicine which you can to try out. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) works really well for anxiety. Meditation is also better for reducing anxiety naturally. Balanced Nutrition intake can also assist you in reducing anxiety. Good luck.

[PurpleFlyingMonkeys]

I have anxiety and I have anxiety involving sexual things as well, it's very common in fact. For one reason or the other. When you consider how many people have been SA'd and when you consider how many people who were not but were taught the "naughtiness and disgust" and the "sin" of anything sexual, you have nearly the whole population. It's on rare occassions that you find someone that is truly comfortably with the sexual part of themselves.

Then you have some that are a little more stressed during intimacy. Often it's because of abuse or as mentioned above the false comments made about it as a child, these kind of things can cause you to go from uncomfortable to panick instantly. No matter what your reason, you're not alone in this. Intimacy is a very private and intimate thing, where if you are not in the right mind set or in the comfortable setting, it could end up being very difficult. You're not alone, not at all.