[rolan86]

I just don't understand it, this has always been a problem for me. I just cannot handle being seeing a movie with sex in it with my parents. I just sink into my seat and my anxiety goes through the roof. I just don't know how to react. Am I supposed to enjoy it? Get excited at the naked women? How am I supposed to react? It just feels so WEIRD in front of my parents. It's gotten to the point of where I flat-out just try to avoid seeing R rated movies with my parents, and I'm 20! I suppose it would make sense though. I have never talked about love and sex with my parents. I never do, and they notice this. I really don't know why I feel so uncomfortable about this subject around them. I am just getting so sick of this anxiety I feel over sex scenes in movies when watching them with my parents. With friends it's fine, but with my parents... Yeah. Like watching the girl with the dragon tattoo, and the rape scene? The amount of anxiety I experienced during all the sex scenes in that movie... I'm still recovering from that...

[whatbeanbelieved]

Hi Rolan,

I'm sorry you're going through this stuff. I can kind of relate because when I was about 19, I had a similar problem, but I'm wondering what you feel along with your anxiety: I found myself going through changes and feeling guilty or somehow ashamed when a sex scene came on and my dad was in the room. Are you somewhere embarrassed? Awkward?

What helped me, at the time, was to talk to my father openly about it. Or as openly as was possible. But I have always shared a very honest relationship with my dad so it's easy for me. Is there any way for you to talk to your folks about this? Like, perhaps even during some such scene, you could say, "Hmm, I always wonder what I should do when these scenes come on and we're all watching them together. I feel really awkward because ".............". How do you guys feel?" Or something like that?

Hope you can work something out..

~BEan

[meleenee]

I've had a lot of anxiety in the past, and still do now in watching sex scenes with my mom. I try to avoid it too, but when it comes up I just try to pretend it doesn't cause me anxiety even though it does. Fake it 'till you make it worked for me.

But I think talking openly about it is a good solution too. Being open and communicative is usually the best approach to anything.

[BatsAndButterflies]

There is no normal way to feel about things, so don't feel embarrassed. There is nothing wrong with feeling a bit awkward about it. But I agrees with Mel that it helps to talk about it.

Rolan, dude . . .

EVERYBODY gets anxious watching sex scenes with their parents.

[PurpleFlyingMonkeys]

I agree with the above comment and honestly, I don't believe those movies should be viewed with parents. My mom used to have us as children cover our eyes when it happened but I always felt uncomfortable. I don't know if it's normal to feel that anxious or if it was because of my past abuse as a child but I always got reallay uncomfortable during the sex scenes and still do today.
Getting excited, enjoying it and all with your parents there seems a bit unnatural. A bit odd to me (no offense to anyone) but if you're looking for a "normal" getting excited over a sex scene while your parents are there is not necessarily normal. I mean if you were dating someone and they were doing a little strip tease in front of you and your parents were there watching would you get all into it or get really uncomfortable? Just mentioning my fiances parents is a quick way to turn the mood around and put an end to any excitement.
It's 2012 and unfortunately it's gotten to the point where nearly every movie that is rated R has sex scenes in it, avoiding these with your parents is probably a good idea. Heck I don't feel comfortable watching them with my fiance, nor by myself really. I personally think the way the movie industry has been putting sex in movies is just becoming rediculous. They do it to sell, that's it. But it's having an adverse reaction from me. If I wanted to see that I would rent porno or something (which I don't do) I'd rather not see it in a room full of people at a movie theatre especially if my parents were in there with me.
But they do have good family movies that only lightly speak on the subject for the most part, perhaps going to those movies is best instead of the R rated graphic movies?
But don't feel alone, being anxious and uncomfortable in my opinion is perfectly normal in that situation

[cboxpalace]

You're normal!!!

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

Rolan, dude . . .

EVERYBODY gets anxious watching sex scenes with their parents.

^^^^ This is true NO matter what the age!!!

[Travelinglady]

Hi again, Rolan. It's interesting in that just last night I watched "The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo" with my 21-year-old son. I think we both probably felt a bit awkward, but I mentioned that I recalled a rough sex scene in it. He said he didn't like to watch rape scenes and had even left the room when he was watching a movie with them with his friends.

Years ago I did talk to him about sex, though, along with my husband. I told the facts and about the wonderful aspects in it when it was associated with love. Perhaps the fact that you and your parents haven't discussed it makes a difference.

I was surprised that it had so many vivid sex scenes in it. I asked at one point if it might even be rated X! (although I happen to know that those movies are much more graphic.) We were both sitting in the dark, like in a movie theater, so maybe that helped.

In retrospect, though, I don't think I would have suggested we watch THAT particular movie together, though, had I known about all those scenes. I had read the book. I don't know why I assumed, in this day and age, that those scenes would either be left out or or more implied.

[Glowiebird]

Originally Posted by rolan86

I just don't understand it, this has always been a problem for me. I just cannot handle being seeing a movie with sex in it with my parents. I just sink into my seat and my anxiety goes through the roof. I just don't know how to react. Am I supposed to enjoy it? Get excited at the naked women? How am I supposed to react? It just feels so WEIRD in front of my parents. It's gotten to the point of where I flat-out just try to avoid seeing R rated movies with my parents, and I'm 20! I suppose it would make sense though. I have never talked about love and sex with my parents. I never do, and they notice this. I really don't know why I feel so uncomfortable about this subject around them. I am just getting so sick of this anxiety I feel over sex scenes in movies when watching them with my parents. With friends it's fine, but with my parents... Yeah. Like watching the girl with the dragon tattoo, and the rape scene? The amount of anxiety I experienced during all the sex scenes in that movie... I'm still recovering from that...

I totally understand. It gets really awkward when stuff like that shows up in a movie & im watching it with Dad. You explained it perfectly! How you react, i assure you, is the normal way. lol

[rolan86]

Nice to know I'm not alone! haha. What's funny though is that how unbearably awkward the girl with the dragon tattoo sex scenes were to watch with my parents (excluding the rape scene of course), they were some of the hottest sex scenes I had ever scene! haha. I totally googled them later...

[sarek]

I think if you were not anxious about watching sex scenes with your parents in the room THEN I would really start to worry. Everyone has this problem.

[rolan86]

PHEW. I feel better now! Thanks

[Travelinglady]

Yes, I would have been bothered by seeing that kind of movie with my parents at your age--not that such movies were available in regular stores or Red Boxes then.

I guess on some level all of us have trouble imagining our parents in sexual activity! My mother (at 84) wouldn't know what to make of such movies. She seemed to even be bothered when there were long kissing scenes in shows when my sis and I would be watching them with her when we were younger.

Heck, I'm 49 and I still find it incredibly awkward to watch a sex scene with my parents in the room!! I don't think that is particularly unusual actually.

[Travelinglady]

True, Chris. At age 57, I would still prefer to watch a Disney movie with my mom!!